Only online relationships?

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This could be long but I'll keep it as short as possible..

For the past 3 or so years.. I've only ever been interested in flirting with women online. Thing is, I've been in some bad relationships that brought major trust issues upon my mental being.. Which kinda lead to me being somewhat depressed.. Which kinda lead to me almost doubling my body weight. (some just munch like pigs when they're sad.. Right?)

So.. Since like 2007.. I've only ever been interested in flirting online. At times I change my 'task'. Sometimes I go for flirting stage.. And stop when she says the inevitable 'I like you' .. However one time it went pretty far (she divorced her husband because she felt she loved me more. This online relationship lasted close to 2 years). That woman is out of the picture now however (she eventually called it quits).

The really strange thing is though.. I get cold feet whenever they say "lets meet up".. And I think of any ways possible to delay meeting up.

I haven't been in a real physical relationship since 2005.. And I *know* that its likely down to having trust issues and weight complexes about myself.. And that because of this I'd rather have the mental/psychological factor when it comes to love instead of the physical factor.. But is it normal?

The thing with online relationships is that I feel I can be there when I want, I can *not* be there when I want.. I don't have to worry about people seeing how much I hate my body.. I don't have to deal with -real- trust issues too often.

I'm starting to kinda worry about myself. I just cant get over certain things.. And it could ruin my future :(

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. I myself have been on the recieving end of someone cancelling a meetup, but I've also cancelled one myself. There was this one guy that I got so damned close to on MSN and we spoke on the phone all the time. The thing is, when meeting up day came along he claimed he couldnt go through with it because he couldnt stand to meet me in person, fall in love with me like he knew he would, and not see me for days on end. (he lived in london, i live about three hours away)

    Despite the obvious cancel, I was terrified of meeting up. I was scared hed see me face to face and change his mind. I think that over teh internet theres a bit much left to the imagination and that you make the ideal of the person presented to you, but if you meet them in person its as if certain expectations haven't been met and you get dissapointed. I like a little bit of MSN flirting now and again, but I stop it if i feel its going nowhere. Im all out for the love and actually finding someone worth it.

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  • TB1920
    13 years ago

    Ok im not one of those assholes who want to put you down i just want to help you out a bit so if any of what i say sound harsh in anyway sorry in advanced

    aight it sounds like your trust issues are getting worst cause your running away from the fact that you where really hurt. I dont know wat happened but dude shit happens and you can't just lock yourself away at home to escape your problems. Im sure way worst shit could have happened to you. The whole online relationship thing you got going shows that apart of you still wants a relationship but you scared. Like If that chick left her HUSBAND for someone she was online with why the hell will she give a damn what you look like. There are some women that like what you got on the inside like feelings and shit. Dude at the end of the day you got at lest like your self a bit before you can ever move on. there has to be something to you to make chicks like you and leave their husband's for you. Nut up cause the more you in this slum the more that chick that did this to you wins. Aight and about the weight thing if it really bothers you that much theres a ton of ways to lose weight out there i suggest the insanity dvds. but i guest you would need determination to start that well anyway. Good luck dude hopes this helps and if it doesnt well....
    shit happens

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  • Comm0nSense
    13 years ago

    it's never normal not to have a loving relationship if you can't be face to face

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Find someone who actually sees a pic of you and you them, or like above said, via webcam.

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  • badboy4u247
    13 years ago

    it depends on if u really ever seen one another or not..webcam?..i would not carry a relationship on line or meet anyone i have never seen..as far as personality that comes in time...also meeting people on line can be dangerous..always meet in a very public place...at least a few times and go from there..

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    I agree with iron maiden!

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  • IronMaiden777
    13 years ago

    Online relationships disgust me and should be put to an end.

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