One of many queer theories, honest responses please

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Long story short (sort of) I'm doing post grad science/genetics and have a course at the moment on queer theory.

ONE theory is that EVERYONE is bisexual as in no discrimination between sexual feelings and different sexes at all. That you just need to meet the right person and forget any social stigma or prejudice instilled in your psyche.

I'm interested to see what people feel (honestly). I don't know myself because to be honest I think I could lean both ways.

Absolutely have had sexual feeling for both sexes 166
I could dabble in being gay but just out of curiosity 89
I'm not at all attracted to the OPPOSITE sex (even slightly) 48
I'm not at all attracted to the SAME sex (even slightly) 93
I'm not sure 25
Go away, I'm a christian and am intolerant of this sort of question. 13
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  • darren3
    12 years ago

    This poll needs to be broken down by gender.

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    • disthing
      12 years ago

      Why?

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  • newace
    12 years ago

    Just my opinion here, and I have nothing against gays, but evolutionarily speaking homosexuality isn't "normal" biological behaviour (because our basic mandate is to procreate). It's just like saying death is a natural part of life, when it isn't; death is the result of our cells ceasing to perform normally. In much the same way homosexuality is a psycho-sexual deviation, technically. But to call something a disease is to imply that it hinders the person from the standard level of functioning in our society, and since homosexuality doesn't do that, modern psychologists no longer classify it as an illness.

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    • TheBatman
      12 years ago

      I am undergrad biology major with a focus in evolution and someone who is dear to me is gay so i have a huge basis. I had this discussion with my father today. I would argue that homosexuality isn't normal societal behavior but perfectly acceptable biological behavior as long as it does not interfere with procreation such as Oscar Wilde. I would also argue that a certain level of homo-erotic behavior (a bromance) is needed for forming strong male-male bonds and increasing cooperation ei sport teams and fraternities. If you need an example in nature you need to look no further then our closest relatives the bonobo chimpanzee.

      I have never had sexual urges toward someone of the same sex. But to say my life is void of all homo-eroticisms i would be lying to myself. Point is ppl: keep your minds open

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      • lc1988
        12 years ago

        Shouldn't it be the opposite?
        Homosexuality is acceptable social behavior but not biological since it will interfere with procreation every time. And then you just name drop an author? What does Oscar Wilde have to do with it? Color me curious.

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    • bigsta
      12 years ago

      I think you missed the point he is saying Bisexuality, My sister breeds dogs and i use to see the males always getting it on with each other as well as the females which proves to me that it is the natural order of things.

      Pre religion the Romans were pagans and most of them were bisexual it was just the way of things and than stupid catholic terrorists came along saying science maths and homo stuff is wrong and we entered the dark ages.

      As for myself although i am in a committed happy straight relationship I could have easily gone gay but i have far too many straight friends which made it hard to be open and honest about my odd bi experience plus i also love boobies way too much to stay on that side of the fence permanently.

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    • clareling
      12 years ago

      Evolutionarily, it makes enormous sense to have homosexual relationships because it has social advantages that change the distribution of resources. Those relationships that promote social connections, access to resources, and passing on of useful experience are kept around.

      Two women having a sexual and emotional relationship are better able to take care of a family than one woman alone. Their children survive and prosper.

      Two men having a sexual and emotional relationship can share knowledge and experience and resources with the other.

      The problem with modern thinking is that it's either/or. Throughout history (and today) men and women have had children and have had a gay relationship. Pop culture social darwinism is ill-equipped to explain the complexities of human evolution.

      We're social creatures, and we evolved the sexual desires to promote connections between people.

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      • newace
        12 years ago

        I think I get what you mean, but if it is so then bisexuality would be best for survival. I'm not too sure if I get what you mean by that homosexual relationships lead to beneficial change in the distribution of resources. Even with that, your theory has problems such as that biological reproduction which actually yields offspring can happen only when male and female sex cells fuse together. In that sense, heterosexuality is the biological norm. Besides, I get a feel that one can easily argue that a heterosexual relationship can also lead to children surviving and prospering (or even being created at all, in the first place) and that a man and a woman can just as easily share knowledge/resources/experience with each other. Anyways, you're right to say that popular understanding of social darwinism is far from perfect. Also I think I said earlier that the human civilization has grown beyond the primitive stage, which eliminates a need for a society that mandates all sexual relationships to be exclusively heterosexual.

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        • PumpkinKate
          12 years ago

          I think that it's logical to believe that bisexuality could be an evolutionary norm constituent upon the presence of polyamory.

          That is to say, sure two dudes or two chicks fuckin' ain't gonna make no babies, but they can get up the next morning and bat for the other team.

          In this scenario, the only thing stopping it is societal acceptance, not biology.

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    • kalifornia
      12 years ago

      Omg! Not to be rude but whats with the big and sorta sintific words

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I'm sure I could experiment but I really couldn't ever see myself loving a man, or even kissing one. I've had a hatful of chances as a good male friend has a large crushette on me and makes the suggestion often.

    No idea if my (lack of) desire is because of genetics or psychology, though. It's probably both.

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  • Hmmaybe
    12 years ago

    I am bisexual, about equal attraction to each sex. But I don't think that it is like that for everyone. Sexuality is in constant change and is affected by many factors which can change overtime. Such as:

    - society (stigmas associated with sexuality)
    - Who you fall in love with
    - what gender you identify yourself as
    - what sexuality you identify yourself as
    - your fantasies

    Explanations and examples of these.

    - society (fourty years ago society was very against homosexuality, so people were less inclined to act homosexually and have homosexual fantasies and so were less homosexual. Another example, all ancient Greek men were bisexual. They had sex with women to produce offspring, but when they didn't want more children, but wanted sex, they had sex with eachother.)

    - Who you fall in love with (a personal example: since falling in love with a boy I have become more homosexual and more inclined to have homosexual fantasies and find boys attractive)

    - what gender you identify yourself as (A boy who identifies himself as a girl is more likely to be gay as he might see this as the social norm for "his" gender)

    - what sexuality you identify yourself as (If you think of yourself as homosexual you are more likely to supress heterosexual thoughts and fantasies, and thus become more homosexual)

    - your fantasies (The thoughts you have as you reach a climax affect what you are attracted to. Whatever you fanatsise about, you become more attracted to)

    Those are my views which I have gained from observing my own sexuality and various society's attitudes towards it.

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  • sleepingbeauty
    12 years ago

    I genuinely believe that sexual orientation is dictated by society and upbringing and our behaviour and attitudes respond accordingly. Humans do not have sex just for procreation, otherwise women would 'come into heat' like an animal does.
    Therefore logically the act of sex is a physical and emotional stimulation that we enjoy wether it is on our own or with a partner of either gender.

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    • Legion
      12 years ago

      Interesting thought, homosexuality also exists in dolphins, and they dont just have sex for procreation either.

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  • kelseyt
    12 years ago

    I don't know. I'm asexual, meaning I have never been sexually attracted to either gender. I believe I might have had the potential to be bisexual, if I had been born with a higher sex drive.

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  • whiskeywolf
    12 years ago

    As a biological organism, it is natural to be attracted to the opposite sex. Otherwise, there'd be no pro-creation.

    I'm homosexual, though I understand it isn't "normal" per se. But I understand that I am who I am. So just because something isn't biologically normal, doesn't make it any less normal, personally.

    I was brought up with the knowledge that homosexuals are equals. So instead of flinging myself off of a building when I found out I was gay, I accepted it.

    I am who I am, and frankly, thats the way it should be.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    I went with the first one:)

    I've had feelings for both genders, but more commonly the female gender.

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  • xpiecemealx
    12 years ago

    Personally, I have always loved the company of a woman. I am a man, but as I have gotten older now 27, I am realizing that I do find certain men attractive. Do I want to get sexual with them? Maybe... I think its just a natural progression.

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  • UliNalaMansae
    12 years ago

    honestly no, though i've heard out of statistics women are more likely to bi... probably wrong im just a kid.

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  • Benny4Jesus
    12 years ago

    Romans 1:18-32
    Nature shows it plainly that homosexuality is not designed. Statistics show it plainly that homosexuality is not healthy. Homosexuals show it plainly that it is not beneficial to society.
    Wisdom shows us what is plain, the real problem is people want to do what they want to do, even when it is wrong. It's been going on since the beginning of time.
    The last verse here says that "they know the judgement of God." Everyone has been given a basic scale in the heart to measure right and wrong. Even if we were to "omit" homosexuality out of the equation, everyone would still be caught by their own words and found guilty of doing wrong. Doing good deeds do not erase the wrongs we have done, they only cover them up. The problem here is, heaven is heaven because everyone there is sin-free. The only hope for us all is to have our sins completely forgiven rather than covered up. And Jesus is the only One who can do this.

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    • darnitjoan
      12 years ago

      lol you should have just checked the 'christianity' option and left. I love how the christians don't realize that they're another option because they obviously won't answer the question truthfully.

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      • PumpkinKate
        12 years ago

        can't argue with a brick wall.

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  • Andyen
    12 years ago

    Truthfully. Im either or in the interest department. Even though i want to start a family and have kids with a stable job, i also have no qwarms with experiancing the other sex. I do belive that all persons are bi. I know of alot more straight guys that have done more things with other guys out of curiousity then my outed gay friends. and I know alot of religious people, male and female that have come out as being gay/lesbian. so i'd agree that everyone is a little bit bi.

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  • DiscoDuck
    12 years ago

    Society plays a large role in conditioning people minds to what is moral, right and wrong. In a society that does not look down on Bi-relationships they would happen pretty regularly....that is to say, in the open as supposed to behind closed doors.

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  • whatsherface
    12 years ago

    People put a standard out there,like its wrong or abnoral to like the same gender but really if no one said otherwise I bet thered be thousands more 'gays'

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  • March8
    12 years ago

    Even though i could never be gay, i reckon its no choice. it just happens, like being an identical twin.

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  • norm
    12 years ago

    I noticed that some posters cited greek and roman bi/homo sexuality as a reason for accepting it as normal.

    I think those examples prove the opposite is true.

    If some who research sexual history (sexual anthropology?) would please tell me this: Has any society that approved/endorsed homosexuality survived long-term??

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    • PumpkinKate
      12 years ago

      The answer is yes. There is no correlation between societal acceptance of homo- and bi-sexuality and the success of a nation.

      The Romans fell due to overexpansion, corruption within their empire, financial pressure, and other internal political affairs combined with attacks from outside military forces. Their *birth rate* was perfectly acceptable. Population saw a growth under Roman culture and rule, as it has for almost every society throughout history.

      The Greeks as well fell apart as a world-encompassing nation due to military, political, and logistical difficulties. Their birth rate was also perfectly normal, and they too saw population growth.

      There is no record of a society of any significant size or historical significance that did not experience enough births due to homosexuality in the history of the world. Certain noble families have fallen due to inbreeding, and thus contributed in part to the fall of certain societies, but absolutely nothing shows that accepting homosexuality has ever impacted an entire nation's birth rate.

      The reason? Most (more than half. much more.) are heterosexual, and humans reproduce rather successfully. The world population has been growing since the dawn of man and hasn't stopped. Levels of homosexual activity or acceptance have not stopped this, ever.

      Hope that helps :)

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      • norm
        12 years ago

        No help at all.

        You ignored my question: Has any society that openly endorsed or approved of homosexuality survived long term?

        This has nothing to do with birth rates whatsoever.

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        • PumpkinKate
          12 years ago

          Strange that you can't read.

          If you REALLY want to go to the outrageous loophole route, wherein you imagine some sort of fictitious connection between a society openly endorsing & approving of homosexuality, and their success long-term as a nation-

          The answer is The United States of America, The United Kingdom, Denmark, Sweden, Norway, The Netherlands, and so many others it would hardly be space-appropriate to list them.

          By that same logic, however, there have been no societies that openly supporting the creation of holes in watermelons and allowing men to fuck them, so therefore (using your preposterous method of reasoning) having sex with watermelons caused the downfall of the Roman empire, along with countless others. Damn those watermelons.

          Also India. From the dawn of its time, to present day, has always supported a great degree of gender ambiguity, fluid sexuality, and androgyny.

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          • norm
            12 years ago

            The United States of America? Really?

            You obviously mean a different one than the USA I live in. Maybe you could tell me how many states endorse gay marriage, as compared to the number that have ammended their state constitution to prohibit it.

            And by long term, I mean more than just a generation or two.

            I have to admit you have me on India, though. And what a model first-world society it is. It is exactly the modern utopia that the rest of the world should aspire to. Lets see... they still practice the caste system, they still practice slavery, begging is probably the most common occupation, little girls are routinely sold into lives of prostitution (yes in 2012), they look the other way while millions die of starvation but won't kill the rats that eat an estimated one-third of the available grain crop each year, they treat cows as holy rather than as a source of much needed food. I could go on and on. Yep, you got me!

            But... Wait a minute...
            Maybe a society that accepts and endorses homosexuality also accepts other practices that make it a less desirable place to live.

            Maybe I'm not wrong after all!

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            • PumpkinKate
              12 years ago

              This, while full of ignorance, bigotry, fear, cowardice, and blind hatred, STILL ignores the most blatant error in your argument.

              There is no link between accepting homosexuality and the success of a culture. (See: Watermelon example, aforementioned)

              You NEED logic to make a point. If I can brush aside your narrow-mindedness, bigotry, and flagrant hate-mongering, I can *attempt* to grasp at your point wherever you have strung it up with logic, fact, deductive reasoning, and truth... but... you're giving me NOTHING.

              Homosexuality, its practice, societal acceptance, and prevalence... has absolutely NOTHING at all to do with cultures and nations thriving and succeeding or falling.

              Also, welcome to the 21st century, bigot! :D Get ready to see more and more states accepting gay marriage, more TV shows, movies, and other media supporting it, greater movements for equal rights for gays, and other things that no doubt raise your disapproving brow. Yes, the USA is the one we all live in, and we are moving towards intelligence, acceptance, openness, and love rather than hatred, ignorance, and discrimination. Whether you come to grips with that or not won't change the fact that it is happening and will continue to do so.

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  • CharlieHarris
    12 years ago

    I have always been 'straight' and believed that Gays wern't normal. At the same time alot of guys have hit on me and when I was in my twenties I was at an adult book store watching some shorts. That was the first time I learned about glory holes. I was masturbating, thinking I was alone, and some guy stuck his finger through a hole in my booth. I zipped up my slacks and hurriedly left this book store. It was right by my office and a week later I dropped in to watch another movie. The same thing happened and this time I slipped my hard dick through the hole. A hot warm mouth swallowed it and I was 'hooked', so to speak. Subsequently, I allowed a number of different men to suck my dick. Several of them were extremely good and made me orgasm very quickly. I believe that men know how to satisfy a nother man because they know what a guy likes although I am still straight.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    I don't believe everyone is bisexual. I do believe sexuality is a scale, and the majority are more heterosexual than they are homosexual. However, most fall between the two. Nurture is certainly a factor, but nature is the deciding one.

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  • minesbiggerso
    12 years ago

    not enough options.
    same sex is great, but I prefer the opposite

    the opposite sex is good, but I respect them too much to play with there affections

    Why can't I just love the one I love. Why choose

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  • kalifornia
    12 years ago

    Dont eaven think about having a girlfriend it will wrek ur time with guys

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I love the Christian option!:)
    I'm a girl and I've never experimented with another girl before. I have had a few boyfriends but never a girlfriend. Hey, I'm in college so here's my time to try it:)

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  • Fadina
    12 years ago

    I do think other women are beautiful and like looking at them from time to time, a bit curious sometimes yes but i have never felt attractive to the same sex, when it comes to being intimate with someone i have and probably always will want a man ^^ but yeah i dont know i could be a bi who is more on the male side XD

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  • hardonlife
    12 years ago

    Did you know that homosexuality also exists in cheetah too?
    They have sex with same sex of their gender, mostly male.

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  • Legion
    12 years ago

    Same thing for chimpanzees. Chimps have also been known to masturbate.

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  • hawkdrvr
    12 years ago

    If you are talking evolution, couldn't homo or bisexuals actually be the next evolutionary step? We, as intelligent beings, are aware of the fact that it takes a male and female to procreate, therefore the urge to only gratify yourself with the opposite sex may become unneccesary.

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  • hardonlife
    12 years ago

    I am a guy who grew up in extreme anti-homosexual culture, by law there is a death penalty for it.
    But I grew Bi-Sexual, I find both sexes attractive, I've never had sex with a man, but I would in heart beat, I have a girl friend and she doesn't mind being Bi, she is ok with me having sex with another man, just to experience it, no other girl tho.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I dont really have much of a sex drive but I find both sexes to be beautiful (attractive).

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  • wigsplitz
    12 years ago

    I'm a very free and open person, and I've never been attracted to or had any sexual feelings for a woman, only men. When I think about sex or get horny, I just want a man...I've had experiences (did it for a guy, not really my idea) but it did nothing for me.

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