Ok, so this may sound a bit. ..weird...but i need a bitta advice..

Alright, lets start from the top.
I'm a 25 year old,and what I assume to be an attractive woman.
in any case, I have been seeing a guy for about, 5 weeks now, we have not been intimate, or reached any sexual area in this time, so I found it really weird that just minutes ago, he told me he loved me...
Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful man, he's genuine, sweet, funny and has as much love for tattoos as I myself do.
so, why is this freaking me out?
Don't ask me if I love him, because truth be told I honestly have no idea what it means to be in love, I don't know what it feels like...but my big question I guess is...what do I do?
Any advice would be greatly apreciated.

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  • Parky_Parker

    Tell him to slow down. Tell him what's on your mind. I'm not saying it's impossible, but after 5 weeks, it's most likely lust. Maybe he's already decided that you're the most beautiful and compatible woman he's met and he's trying to prove something to you. Or, he really thinks he's in love. Or, maybe he is. Or maybe he just wants to have SEX? Who knows. But you're obviously not on the same page, which is understandable. Whatever he means by it, it's important that YOU express where you stand.

    "Listen, Johnny. I appreciate you being a gentleman and expressing your feelings, but I really wasn't expecting that. We've only dated for a short time, so there's no way that I am capable of being in love with you yet. I haven't gotten to know you that well. But, thank you?"

    Best of luck.

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  • Pika-girl

    5 weeks is very little time.

    The best way to do it is probably ask for more time to get to know each other more. Then, maybe after, you could decide if you love him back or not.

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  • ThisIsImpossible

    He's probably just talking crazy cus he's been seeing you for over a month and you still haven't touched his dick

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  • Scarlett5528

    Oh sweetie,
    I do that for him every day.
    but alas, you clearly missed the point of this post, and chose to be childish about it.
    guess we cant expect great things from you.

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  • mlbryan44

    What you should do is suck him off and swallow his cum. It will make him happy and give you shiny hair.

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  • Why does everyone have an issue with someone telling someone else they love them if they assume its too soon? What is too soon? Can anyone give me an exact time when in the relationship the word love should be used? No, you can't, because every relationship is different. Some relationships take a long time to grow into true love and some people fall inlove instantly. My boyfriend and I fell inlove after our first date. We started telling eachother we loved eachother after a month. In that first month we were inseperable and have been ever since. I also moved in with him after a month of dating and we have yet to have one argument. We barely even disagree on anything. We spend every minute of our free time (when he's not at work) together and we have been together for a year now. There's nothing wrong with someone telling there significant other that they love them, IF they are genuine. Its not impossible for someone to think they are inlove when they're actually just acustomed to the feeling of having a boyfriend/girlfriend and feel the word love is nessicary. Again, it all depends on the individuals involved in the relationship. Fifteen year old girls telling their very first highschool boyfriend they love them? Chances are slim that they're actually inlove but its not impossible. Two mature adults that really do have a noticable romantic connection saying "I love you"? Very likely its genuine. I'm not sure its natural for it to freak you out, especially since in your post it seems you really click with this guy. If you don't feel 100% sure you're inlove with him though, you're probably not. Not yet anyway. Give it some time to blossom into love. Some people open up slower than others.

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  • Scarlett5528

    Thanks gypsy:)
    Like I said in my previous comment, we went to high school together a long time ago, and we habe recently become closer then we were then.
    he is a very kind and sweet man, and he says he just wants to be the kind of man his daughters would be proud of, and be a man he would want his daughters to be with.

    Thank you all so very much for the advice :)

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  • thegypsysailor

    Obviously tats are important to you and someone who likes and accepts yours is great. But it seems very premature at 5 weeks (without sex, even) to profess your love to someone you do not know well.
    I would proceed with extreme caution as this guy might be a bit clingy and insecure. Might. Or he could be a great guy who has fallen head over heels in love with you. He might, might I say again, be one of those very rare guys who can express his feelings and be open and honest with others.
    Only time will tell, so again, I would proceed with caution and keep a lookout for signs that this isn't a stable or rational guy. Good luck.

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  • Scarlett5528

    Thank you both for the comments.
    and Parky, yes, I have explained to him that it takes a great deal of time for me to develop feelings like that, but I guess I can see where he is comimg from.
    we went to high school together, and have always been close, but not its differemt because we are seeing eachother.
    he explained to me that he does not want me to feel pressure for anything.
    hes totally fine waiting for me to be ready, and Im very glad he feels that way..
    it just confuses me haha.

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