Obsessive or loving?

I'm in High school and there is this boy and he really likes me a lot. He always is over protective of me and wont let any other boy in the school get close with me at all. I feel like he has cut me off from all of my friends to a point because he wants so much attention. I actually do Like this boy a lot though... I would date him its just he is so over protective and over bearing! He is such a nice guy and fun to talk to and we share a lot of common interests but he just needs to tone it down.

Also, his best friend is my ex, and my ex is always spreading rumors about me all the time, and the boy who is obsessive over me believes the rumors then gets upset with me. I just feel like he is acting like my dad or something and telling me what to do all the time and its crazy!

Like for example.. today in the hallway i was trying to tell him that it makes me sad when he is always accusing me of things. then he told me "to watch my damn mouth" and i dont need someone telling me what to do.

Another thing is that whenever i try to leave him and stop being his friend he makes me feel bad because he really does care for me, but sometimes i just think its best if i just go...

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  • Tealights

    He doesn't care about you, seriously.

    What he's doing is called emotional abuse. Basically, he's being pushy, aggressive, and accusing you of this and that to make you vulnerable, so he can control you.

    With manipulative people like this, it will always start out amazing, because they will say or do anything that makes you fall in love with them faster. You'll think he's perfect in so many ways. However, his tactic will trick you into feeling the need to please him or become compliant to his aggressive demands (i.e. "watch your damn mouth") to keep his attention, affection, or false friendship.

    I'm going to give you some solid advice: Run. Do not continue this friendship no matter what bullshit he throws at you.

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    • Ellenna

      Great advice, which is what you usually give. I just hope she takes it

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  • fluffy1uv

    That last part is a huge fucking red flag dog

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    • RoseIsabella

      Fa sho!

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      • fluffy1uv

        You and i bofe know G

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        • RoseIsabella

          Um hmm, dat's rright!

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    • autumnjoi2001

      Yeah I know, that last part just happened today... and he had never said anything like that before today.

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      • fluffy1uv

        Please get out noowww you're gonna end up getting abused girl. Just fucking end it now. Tell all your friends and family about that incident so he doesn't try to threaten you

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  • RoseIsabella

    RUN!!! Run fast, and far away from this guy!

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    • Ellenna

      I agree - control freak warning

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  • officer_dinkle

    He's a codependent asshole and you need to cut off his loser-ass. He's infatuated with you and that attention can be really appealing, but if you're already noticing he's isolating you and obsessed it's only gonna get worse (a lot worse).

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  • crygypsy

    LEAVE BEFORE HE HURTS YOU MORE.
    -victim of an emotionally abusive boyfriend & still scarred to this day. He will manipulate, love, manipulate, love... and trust me, that kind of love IS NOT worth it. Ever see the commercials on t.v "that's not love" I'm glad they show those now. Couldn't be more true. He doesn't really love you. He's using you.

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  • Lilwhiteguy

    You won't change him. This is who he is. Get as far away as possible.

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