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Each time I meet a guy or talk to a guy and he is nice to me, I find myself crushing on them. Or I creat an obsession over them. It happens all the time and I can't help it, and if we end up dating the guy I find myself being clingy and peranoid that he is going to do something to hurt me, is there something wrong with me?
Well, this is one of those situations where you are normal...and not in a good way. This attitude or set of habits is very prevalent especially among teen and young women. It leads to a very unhealthy dating habits that can remain with you throughout your life.
I definitely think you are looking to fill a void in your life, looking for a man/boy to fix or fill that space that is empty, and then fearing like hell that he'll leave you and put you back where you began. Alone, missing something.
Since I know the chances that you will stop dating guys immediately and focus on bettering yourself are slim, what I'm going to suggest is that while you are boy chasing... you also chase other dreams as well. Another person cannot make your life complete or worthwhile, they may give you good feelings and help you feel a bit better about yourself, but they can't change the core of you. That's your job.
Figure out if you can when the boy crazy started, what exactly it is you are seeking for them to fix and see if you can find other ways to take care of those needs yourself as well.
Wow. You sound like this older chick I know. No it's not normal or right and you need to get over your issues or you won't keep a man.
Sadly, I have to say I do the same thing. It's not normal but ur not alone
I also agree with Ollieo. Don't cling to a guy- it'll just annoy them, and being needy is a sign of insecurity. Don't show your insecurity- it's not cute. Just calm down a little bit, they'll appreciate it a lot more, and they'll also be more at ease.
ollieo is right. why obsess over a person? any person? people who do that really don't know who they are. i think you need to take some time on getting to know who you are. being clingy and paranoid is not something any normal man or boy would like. only selfish creeps want you to be all about them.
You are too needy and dependent on boys for your personal validation. Maybe take a break from boys and learn to be content with yourself.