Not wanting to have sex? iin

My man always wants sex, and i feel bad because for some reason i dont really like sex.. its hard for me to get turned on. dont get me wrong he can turn me on. but most of the time i just dont wanna have sex or i cant get myself to say yes, and i feel bad:/ IIN??

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  • thegypsysailor

    There are a couple of possibilities.
    First I'd go to a doctor to make sure there isn't something physically wrong, like a hormonal imbalance, etc.
    If all is OK there, perhaps a sex therapist may be of help; there may be repressed sexual abuse, etc, and I'm sure there are some drugs that can increase libido.
    In any case, guilt is not a productive feeling and can only exacerbate the situation. Talk openly with your man and seek a solution together. Good luck.

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  • (s)aint

    Sex is really important in a relationship, you don't want to have sex as much as he does. Either you aren't having the type of sex that you like or you simply aren't that interested.

    In my opinion two people that have a really different sex drive should not be together because one person will always feel bad. You shouldn't feel bad about not wanting to have sex and neither should he be missing out on something that he probably needs.

    This is coming from someone who thinks that sex is one of the MOST important things.

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  • RainbowDischarge

    Do you give him a bj at least?

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    • Grigori

      yeah right if shes having trouble saying yes to sex than you can straight up forget about the bj

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  • farickaa

    wow, some people are rude. my man can turn me on we have sex its the fact sometimes i dont want to. its ok to not wanna have sex everyday.. that not important in a relation ship to me, its not like i tell him no all the time. this website is full with rude people, why did i come here.

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  • KatieLiz

    Don't ever do anything out of some misplaced sense of 'duty'. That's bullshit.

    It's entirely possible that your sex drive is just relatively less than his. People have all varying degrees of sex drive, from nymphomaniac to asexual.

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  • GreatArt

    You've gotta do your duty, especially if its your husband but if you're not feeling well or on your menses, its okay.

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    • (s)aint

      She doesn't have to do anything!

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    • biaj

      She doesnt HAVE to do anything, but you definitely dont want to marry someone that is going to be stingy, talk about that shit before you get married. she doesnt have to but make sure she is willing to before you make a large scale commitment like marriage.

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  • farickaa

    put it this way, my man is well taking care of i wasint saying that. thanks thoe.

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