Not want to express my feelings worrying i might push the person away

So I work with this girl she is really attractive, smart, and a really cool person. I get this weird feeling and I'm assuming it's feelings toward her. I talk to her here and there and text her here and there. She is going through a breakup with her ex it's been about a year. I have talked to her and she expresse her feelings about him saying she wants it to work between them but at the same time does not and that she is tired of it. I hvent told her how I feel but make comments to her of how she looks and how she does not need him. I really don't want to screw it up so I keep my distance as well idk what to do :( pleasee I need help lol...

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  • party_in_my_pants666

    I'm going through the same thing it's really confusing man

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  • TheConsciousElectron

    Be her friend for now. If you make a move, then you could end up being the rebound.

    Be supportive, but don't be her shoulder to cry on. Keep your distance so she doesn't "friend zone" you. When you do talk to her, don't talk about her ex-boyfriend. If she brings it up, change the subject.

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  • simplyjuicelover

    The thing is I do not want to be stuck in that friend stage, all of your comments are giving me postive feedback and I appreciate it alot. It's weird because I usally know what to say but this girl is a little different lol. However, I will take it slow and see how it goes because she is probebly going through alot.

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  • limiter

    A lot of times when girls are going through relationship issues you can just feel the tension. I never really thought about it but so many of the girls I fell for were having serious romantic problems at the time.

    They are vulnerable, honest, and I guess that's unbelievably attractive. However many times you think it's a coincidence or that you're just making things up, you probably aren't.

    If you're feeling it, she probably might like you. But more than anything she needs a friend right now. If you have feelings don't confuse her. Be what she needs.

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  • nerd1234

    Well, since she is in the middle of a break up.. continue to be her friend and support her. However, if her and her bf do end up splitting apart, make sure you don't immediately ask her out. Comfort her, and tell her what you think of her (express your feelings). I am a girl, so I am just telling you how i would like a boy to do it if i just broke up with my bf. Make her feel better about herself, and then maybe a week or two later (not too late) ask her if she would like to go out with you.. then take it from there. I hope this helped you. :)

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  • AutumnSoulwise

    Just keep being her friend for now. The best relationships, that last the longest, have always started with a foundation built on friendship and trust. If you were to tell her that you have feelings for her, you might make her uncomfortable. You will know when the time is right to let her know that you are falling for her. Listen to her when she talks, be a shoulder for her to cry on, and keep her "secrets" to yourself. Be honest, open, and a person she can trust and sooner or later she will realize that you are the one she wants to be with. On the flip side of this, you could tell her how you feel and take your chances. You never know, maybe she feels the same way about you and just hasn't said anything because she doesn't know how you feel. What I am trying to get at is this; you know her, so you have to be the one to figure out how to handle this situation. You can get all of the advice in the world from strangers on here, but in the long run, it ultimately boils down to what you think is right, and timing. Are you a risk taker? Are you willing to put your heart on the line? Are you ready to deal with whatever she says in response to your confession of love? Can you handle just being friends if that is all she wants from you? I don't know you and I don't know her, but she sounds like she is confused right now and not in any position to make decisions about relationships. I would go with being her friend until she is totally rid of her current relationship.

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