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What should a partner with lower sex drive do when their higher-libido partner wants to have sex and he / she is not in the mood?
| Not to have sex / Decline politely (I am female) | 4 | |
| Just do it (I am female) | 2 | |
| Satisfy the horny partner orally or manually (I am female) | 3 | |
| Not to have sex / Decline politely (I am male) | 2 | |
| Just do it (I am male) | 4 | |
| Satisfy the horny partner orally or manually (I am male) | 5 |
Even if you felt you weren't in the mood, a bit of foreplay and you're raring to go.
Think of it this way: how long does the person in question suffer?
1. The unwilling partner does not want to have sex and if she/he has sex, she/he "suffers" for a few minutes during the sex.
2. The unwilling partner does not want to have sex and if she/he refuses sex, their partner suffers for many hours or days until their frustration is relieved.
So to me the answer is "just do it" or "satisfy him/her manually or orally" . You will spare him/her the suffering of frustration for long hours and you will manage to do it in a few minutes, not such a big deal...
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Unfortunately, some people are doomed to being in mood less often than their partners, and then the couple is doomed to mismatched libido and my question was if this doom means automatically sex starved relationship.
Quite likely. I know of a few women actually who have this issue. One case ended in prompt divorce. I guess it depends on just how important is the nookie and how severe the lack of it is.
In the case which ended in prompt divorce - how would the low libido partner react (I mean before the divorce, when they were still together and having this problem)? "Just do it", "Satisfy them in other ways" OR would he/she simply refuse?
The low libido person was the husband. I don't know a lot of details about it but it was like he just wasn't interested in sex. I don't think he was cheating or anything, just not a horny person. I guess it was normal sex life before they got married then he just slowly stopped wanting it. I think he had a lame excuse most of the time