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Hello everyone.
I am a 30 year old female who is still a virgin and I want to stay that way. I do not desire to have sex with anyone and shy away from men trying to flirt with me (I become scared actually).
I know it is not conventionally considered normal to not ever want to have sex. I am more curious if there are other men and women out there like me?
It's uncommon, but it's normal. It's called being asexual, and yes, there are other people like you.
You can check out more info on http://www.asexuality.org.
I am curious if you have no interest in HAVING sex, or no interest in sex. There is a real difference there. If you masturbate, but have no interest in having sex, perhaps your brain is just shutting things down until you feel more comfortable about having a relationship and exploring sex with a partner.
On the other hand, as others have said, there are plenty of people who really don't have very much interest in sex, and you may simply be one of them.
Because sex is generally a primal and basic human need, sometimes it is good to have a physical to rule out any hidden physical problems that might interfere with sexual response. One more thing. If you DO have sex one day, you may find that you want it more than you realize. Sex is like eating potato chips. After the first one, it's real easy to want more and more.
well it depends if you have never had an orgasam than yes and if you have then not really i mean who doesnt want it for that reason exactly
first of all, what is asexuality? Does it mean that you don't like sex or something. That does not seem very normal, unless you have been taught to never have sex, although it sounds ridiculous. You get scared? Guys get scared when they ask out girls. Girls don't get scared. Girls like it. They control the guy in the situation. Whatever. Do what ever the hell you want.
In convents, & in many homes, etc. I am sure there are people who feel as you do: sex isn't a value or interest, and is something you'd rather be without.
If that is your position, then fine.
I don't think you need feel pressured or intimidated by advances from the opposite sex just because you are attractive. It s just human nature. Emphasis on nature part there. Take it as a compliment from those who could not possibly know how you feel.
It is reasonable to be interesting, without necessarily being interested. As I said, that's a compliment albeit one you needn't feel obliged to do anything about.