Not close to my parents

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I'm a 24-year-old male but I don't think I've ever been close to either of my parents.

My mom moved out of my house when I was 7 and although I saw her weekly up until I was 15, there was no real relationship. The 'parenting' responsibility was non-existent from her and actually given over to my someone she married shortly after she left my biological-dad. (That didn't go well as I avoided my mom's house because my stepdad had anger issues he'd let out on me over nothing.) She feels like a stranger to me. I feel like I know some of my college professors better than her.

As far as my biological-dad goes; we have a relationship but the desire for closeness is on his end. He wants me to talk to me about my deep intimacies and goals but it makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to be like my dad in most of the ways he is; we have differing religious/ political views, his house is a disaster because he hoards, he says hurtful things to my sister and I, he has huge health issues but can't manage to lose weight for the last 5 years. (I do care about my dad, and I would be very unhappy if he passed but he's not someone I truly admire or find grounding in.)

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  • perobassman
    5 years ago

    I'm nearly 60 and had a similar situation. I didn't shed a tear when my mother died and I can't remember ever having a happy relationship with her. My dad on the other hand was my best friend in his later years. I didn't get to know my dad until he was in his 70's. We hardly communicated or had much of a relationship until I got older. I still miss my dear old Dad.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Sounds abnormal for them not to be able to adapt and normal for you to dettach. Many people are unhappy with their parents, such as me. The only thing we can do is to move on. Trying to build a relationship doesn't work. Just find other things to do or other people to spend time with. It's ok, we can't choose our parents, but we can choose our own lives.

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  • COSMICPSYCHO
    5 years ago

    What type of deep intimacys?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      If I'm feeling depressed, if I still think about my ex-girlfriend, if there are any new romances in my life,

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