Not being attracted

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Okay, I've been thinking about his for awhile mow and I can't ask anyone I know about it so I come to the Internet world, for awhile now I've haven't felt the need for a relationship like I'll have my lonely moments but whenever someone came up to me and would tell me they wanted to be with me I wouldn't do it like I wasnt attracted enough to be a girlfriend, I've had a boyfriend for a month and it was awkward the whole time so I dumped him, I know your thinking I might be gay But I have no interest in women, I still have sexual urges but not often so I don't know what's going on lol am I normal? Please someone help, I'm 19 going to be 20 in. Month if that helps.

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  • Hmmaybe
    12 years ago

    You might be asexual (or nearly asexual, because it's all a gradient)

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  • oliveshoes
    9 years ago

    I think your normal. These days , it's not easy finding someone. I think the best course of action for you is to completely get all of the possible mate stuff for the guys you meet, out of your mind. Focus on your life. At 19 I'm sure you have a lot of decisions to make. What are you going to do with your life and if your college then your studies are number 1. You are very lucky that your so young and have the ability to choose anything!! Anyway,let go of the relationship mindset. When and if you do meet someone in a social setting just be kind. (If you at least like them as a person) If need be, tell them your not looking for a relationship. Just be friends with people. These things have a way of working themselves out. When we look or try too hard..It doesn't happen.

    I am sure at some point you'll suddenly find that you have feelings for someone and it crept up on you! It might be in 3 months, 12 months or 2 years. In the meantime, just enjoy your life and your friends. Whatever you do, don't just "hook up" with random guys. That is no way to behave if you want to feel good about yourself anyway. (and these days..it is just too dangerous! Health wise AND safety)

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  • 199119
    12 years ago

    Thank you guys I really appreciate it and LDizzy1234 if you wanna talk about this more I'm here!!

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  • isaactaruma23
    12 years ago

    your normal

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    No, I don't think you're gay. But I do think I'm kinda in the same predicament as you. And if not the same, then mine is pretty similar.

    I've had a decent amount of guys ask me out, but for some reason I really never felt the same. I feel like, "Is there any friggin guy that I'm attracted to out there, who is actually attracted to me?".

    One time, I attempted to bring myself to "like" this one guy who was clearly a good guy, very nice, personable, quite an attractive guy to many girls, etc. But I would never go further then a friendship with him. I just couldn't "actually" feel the same way for him as he did for me. Girls knew that he liked me, and they couldn't believe that I wasn't giving him a chance, because clearly, he was the guy that all the girls wanted. I was friends with his sister, and w/e I went to her house, he would always be around. But it was just, it was just too... "awkward". I felt like I didn't really feel the same, and like you said, I felt like I wasn't really cut out to be his girlfriend.

    And sometimes I have lonely moments too. But I feel like, if I'm gonna go out with someone, it's not gonna be just for the sake of having a boyfriend, but because I actually feel something, and they do too. If you don't feel like you're attractive enough to be a girlfriend when guys are openly coming up to you and showing interest, then you have a serious self esteem problem, as do I, probably.

    I think you probably just are looking for that one guy thats gonna make you feel like you're really worth something more then what the others show. You're not easy. That can be a very good thing. And maybe you feel uncomfortable at the thought of being girlfriend material, because of the very little experience you had in your past as a girlfriend/being in a relationship.

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