Normal to not know who i love?

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I've been with this guy now for over 4 years and I've not once questioned if I love him or not because I've always felt I had until now.

I keep find myself talking to my ex boyfriend. Now, we're both taken. He's also with someone so its not like hes single and its not like I'm single, but I cant stop thinking about him. I cant stop feeling like I love him.

I always thought about him throughout the 4 or so years when I was with my current boyfriend, but I just thought it was normal to think about him. Now that I spoke to him, I feel so strongly for him and I keep dreaming about him. I can't control my thoughts for him but he only says he loves me as a friend, but he spent hours talking to me the other day and actually stopped talking to his girlfriend for that time as did I with my boyfriend.

I'm not cheating on my boyfriend because I didnt do anything with this guy, we only hugged, but I do have feelings for him and I know him so well we've been friends ever since just I stopped talking to him for a while until now. I really love this guy, but is it really love?

I have no idea what to do. I'm so afraid.

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  • no-ones-perfect
    13 years ago

    I think your just bored of your current boyfreind and your chatting with an ex so maybe you also miss the old days.Just relaxe and take a break from both of them.Im not saying you have to break up with your current boyfreind just dont vissite him as much as before.(If you live together then your pretty much stuck)

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  • puppyface
    13 years ago

    You are wasting your boyfriend's time.

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  • faisoly
    13 years ago

    you dont have to be afraid its somekinda hard to Say I HAVE TO MOVE ON So SOmeone keeps him self in a delirium of I Loved my X - Go Find A New Boyfriend who makes u happy and forget ur previous life dont think about the past just move on

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    no one can control who they love, so it's normal to still have feelings for him. just remember that he's not single, and neither are you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Maybe you need time out from guys just to let your feelings settle until you feel good & settled inside your own skin.

    You know , you actually don't HAVE to have a boyfriend. And especially not while you are not over the last one. Give yourself a break. Just date or whatever but lay off the heavier relationship stuff for a bit.

    (PS - there is such a thing as emotional cheating).

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  • Rose83
    13 years ago

    Please see my comment in the "I need help. Should I see a psychiatrist for this?" post. It's about 2-3 questions up from yours.

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