Normal to ghost fiance because she's sick?

Don't ghost her that's so mean

Ghosting her is a terrible idea. You owe her an explanation. Be honest about it and stop being a coward. Your mental disorder is no excuse for this nonsense.

Having a mental illness doesn't give you a pass to act like a dick and be respected for it. Regardless of the state of her health, you have to be a total asshole to even consider abandoning and ghosting your fiancée, and I've gotta wonder what she sees in you.

I also wonder if you're considering acting like a vile, self-centred shit because you're depressed, or if you're depressed because you recognise the vile, self-centred shit you are every time you look in the mirror.

Still, you're right about two things:

My second wife had cancer, and I found helping her deal with that very difficult. The memories of that time are still intrusive and disturbing more than a decade after her death. Only someone who has watched a loved one die of cancer can understand how horrible that process truly is.

You're also right that your fiancée is not going to get any support from you, since you're clearly far too selfish and self-obsessed to give that.

You say you love her, but I suspect that any affection you may feel for her is based on the fact that she has been willing to put up with your bullshit.

If you'd like to come out of this with a smidgen of self respect, you'll find the guts to actually look into her eyes and tell her that you can't handle this, you can't support her, and you don't want to be with her any more because she's no longer capable of giving you the support you believe you deserve. Hopefully, she'll recover, and her life will be far better without your sorry ass hanging around.

You might also mention that she doesn't need to worry about you because you've already found a replacement for her. That might make it easier for her to see just what sort of person you really are.

There is nothing wrong with not being able to cope with it. Better you both find that out sooner than later.

"Ghosting" your fucking FIANCEE is next level cuntery. That's just fucking vile.

Cancer isn't necessarily even a death sentence. But you clearly don't actually care about her, you're just junping on the excuse tp leave instead of admitting you want out.

For sickness and for health, till death do us part. I guess that means nothing to self centered assholes like yourself.

You don't sound like a good person , but I understand that seeing awful stuff is difficult. Its easier to hide in a fantasy world and be a kid , but living like that won't work after a while.

And when this other girl leaves , you might regret abandoning your current dying girl. Once she's dead and gone.. you won't have another chance to explain or fix it. Your wife will be lost forever.

I understood you up to the the bipolar B.S.
If you're not man enough just leave.
Even a woman with cancer is better off without you.

Wow, what an asshole.

Check out Jim Gordon on FB. Don't trust her life to the cancer industry. To answer your question you should be at her side and supporting her. Grow a pair.

That's really cowardly. You are kind of a selfish, little bitch of a guy, aren't you? Maybe you need to remain alone? Don't be surprised if some chick leaves you someday, because you're too high maintenance. The world doesn't revolve around you.

Stick with her if you love her as much as you say you do. Ghosting her will just cause you more pain then dealing with her and being a support for her through these tough times.

Wasn't this question already asked from the other point of view, huh? I do believe so!

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