Normal to feel guilty and want to return the wallet i found recently?

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On the way home from work, I found a wallet with 45 dollars in it. I picked it up and took the money out but I wanted to return the wallet empty to the owner.

Well, on the walk home, the owner asked me if I found her wallet and since I drained it, I said no. I still feel bad for not returning the money but the owner is a ditzy, dumb girl and my girlfriend and I are starving and I bet we could use that money a little more than her.

My question is, is it okay to not give the wallet back to her? I did find it and I think we really could use the money more than the owner.

The owner is a girl in an early high school grade and I did see her smoking and she had facial piercings. I still feel bad, hense me writing this story, but what do you all think?
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Update
We badly needed the money so I did not return it. I feel bad several days later and now that I have been paid, I am thinking on calling the girl and returning it with more money in it than what she had before.

The girl was a skank, but I always hold myself to a higher standard and I still feel bad.

Is it normal to have guilt over something that I really didn't do wrong. Also, was I wrong in this case.

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  • Kat444
    14 years ago

    You just judged that girl based on her appearance. For all you know she has deadbeat parents and really needs that money. Or maybe she's a spoiled skank. Quite frankly, it doesn't matter. You stole from her, and that's wrong. You should feel guilty because you did something wrong. Not only did you steal, you lied about it to the victim's face.

    The right thing would be to return the money and the wallet and apologize. Anything less would reflect very poorly on your character.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      You are partally right, but I was judging her also on how she carried herself and not so much of her dressing. Not just the piercings, which were disturbing, but how she talked and presented herself non-verbally.

      Doesn't really matter, I returned the wallet with more money than I found in it. But in the end, it did feed my pregnant fiance so it wasn't all bad.

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      • Jen118584
        14 years ago

        God you're a waste of space. For the love of all that is holy I hope you are kidding about your fiance being pregnant because the idea of you being a parent is alarming.

        Get over yourself. Just because you judge someone to be a skank doesn't mean they are any less of a person than you are and any less entitled to common decency. You're 30 years old and you think that because she appeared to be a skank TO YOU, you are entitled to steal her money and her personal belongings. Like she deserves it. The same way you think women in abusive relationships deserve the abuse. The same way you think all Iranians deserve to be stereotyped and shunned from American society.

        At least I know you are actually human since you felt some measure of guilt and returned it. I was beginning to wonder.

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  • xino00
    14 years ago

    a criminal theft calling a careless idiot skank:/

    return the wallet and money.

    When I find something I make sure I return it!

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Actually, today I mailed back the wallet and I haven't even read these yet. I wasn't a theif as I was walking home and I saw the wallet in the middle of the sidewalk with nobody around. I walked a whole block and a half before she even approched me. I did not see her drop it nor did she see me find it.

      So I don't fit into the realm of theif. However, I still felt bad for her so I mailed her her wallet with more money than she lost.

      We did badly need the money as we ate on the money as we were broke before but I did mail it back to her. To clarify, I called the girl a skank because she had numerous piercing, dressed extremely grungy, smoking before legal age and talking on her cell phone. Who she was talking to, I don't care.

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      • hotchickie81
        14 years ago

        Oh so you did mail it back to her? Good. I'm sure she feels much better now :) And so should you.

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  • NopeNotNormal
    13 years ago

    Duck. I just choked on my own saliva. You're hilarious!! I'm gonna stalk all of your posts.

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  • StrangeDuckDude
    13 years ago

    I've been reading some of your posts, Bud. I don't normally judge people by physical appearances. Ya know, sometimes otherwise decent people make mistakes - like stealing. But they know it's JUST PLAIN WRONG, end of story. But after seeing you attempt to RATIONALIZE your thievery (proving you're a moral as well as a physical degenerate) plus your shameless attention whoring in general - I take one look at you and that fiance of yours and imagine that snaggle-toothed, banjo-playing imbecile from "Deliverance" at the thought of you two reproducing.

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  • philnos
    13 years ago

    why dont you get a real job so you dont have to resort to stealing you ugly piece of shit

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Heaven forbid you actually read the comments before spouting off your shit. If you did, you would have seen that I already have admitted fault and that I have made amends. But for fucks sake, I would hate to break this piss storm that a great deal of you enjoy here by spouting off facts to break your line of logic or thinking.

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  • NopeNotNormal
    13 years ago

    Even if I am a mere woman? ;)

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  • Mastersash
    13 years ago

    With just a glance at your profile I can tell what a bastard you are.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      You must be refering to me although you do not say due to the simple fact that I am the only one who posted who HAS a profile.

      My only responce is...

      Eh, like I give two shit what you think if you are refering to me as I am too busy looking for work at Borders to give a shit what you think.

      Once again, this is only if you are referring to me and if not, never mind.

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      • Jen118584
        13 years ago

        Haha, everyone hates you.

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      • Mastersash
        13 years ago

        I do have a profile- and your obviously not too busy to care but whatever. Good luck in life, you seem to need it..

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  • NopeNotNormal
    13 years ago

    Sorry, toad, I didn't realize there were expiration dates on stories.

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    • Jen118584
      13 years ago

      I think I love you.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Yeah he stole the money. I said so earlier. But he erased my comment - as if stealing that too. He is a dishonest liar & a thief.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Here's my advice: somehow get over your huge feelings of inadequacy.

    Big leap, but it is the foundation of your misogyny, racism, sexism etc.. A big leap for you.

    Try to create what your child will need: a secure economic and interpersonal family foundation. Then you will be OK.

    But frankly, I think these are beyond your reach.

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  • notthemom
    14 years ago

    Do you know about Karma? I believe that what goes around comes around. You know how it is to need money so you shouldn't take someone elses ever!! I think you should return the wallet with the 45.00 you will feel better in the end.

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  • ComboBreaker
    14 years ago

    You was in a bad place and found a wallet. You needed the money. Not useing it would have been silly. In the end you made a choice to give it all back and then some. Theres nothing to feel guilty about. Try and find a charity to get food, if needed and... Good luck.

    Normal.

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  • olebrandy
    14 years ago

    I didn't even have to read everything you wrote.Return the wallet. You will feel better about yourself. If you don't return it you may end up a pathetic thief like all the other losers out there. It's the right thing to do.Now if you find a bag with lots of cash in it,and no i.d. thats a different story.

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    I think you should return it... or myabe get your fiance to do it for you. She probably has other stuff in their, like photo ID, debi/credit cards, rewards cards, etc. I know from experience it's not fun to lose (or in my case have STOLEN) a wallet. Identity theft is awful, and it leaves you with such an awful feeling. Happened to me 4 years ago, and it still bothers me to this day. So please do the right thing and return the wallet to her, even if it is empty (no money).

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      I did return it and it didn't have ID in it. All it had besides the money was her boyfriends picture and an "In case of found, return here" letter.

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      • [Old Memory]
        14 years ago

        Bud always cuts my comments out. Still:

        Well Bud even the girl you impregnated has doubts about you:
        http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-feel-scare-about-beening-pregnet-39022/#comment-342727

        Poor thing. I hope her Mom is strong enough to guide her way.

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        • [Old Memory]
          14 years ago

          Wow, I was impressed that one of you three, the leader, seemed to quit but here you are still badmouthing me. I have tried everything but I flat out just laugh at you.

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          Sure, I felt bad for the wallet so I returned it and reading the story you commented on, I think you missed the whole point.

          All I am going to say is ...eh

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          • [Old Memory]
            14 years ago

            It is unfortunate you didn't return the money - but hardly a surprise, people these days are, by need, looking out for themselves.

            All in all - Normal.

            As for the abuse you are getting here via the other few chowderheads: Don't sweat it.

            You should have been here BEFORE "the great change", roflmao! Some of my feuds with the late, unlamented Spam_Javolin and Sgt_Darwin_Morrison are still talked about by old timers, and some of the replies Still bring a smile to my face.

            Nothing like a good flame war to warm the blood.

            I miss my old friends here, Niceybaby, Stargirl and others... I appear to be almost alone from before - one of the reasons Moi doesn't grace this space with her presence as much.

            I still pop in though.

            IIN Diva - October

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            • screwface69er
              12 years ago

              You sound like you spend far to much time on this site my friend

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          • [Old Memory]
            14 years ago

            Boo hoo hoo ...

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  • NopeNotNormal
    13 years ago

    You should ABSOLUTELY NOT hold yourself to a higher standard than this poor victim of theft. In earlier comments in this pathetic story, you said you're not a thief. Surely you jest. You STOLE money from HER wallet. Then, you and that porkchop you're "engaged" to went and stuffed your disgusting, undeserving faces. Furthermore, if you actually think anyone with a partially functional brain believes you RETURNED MORE money than you stole, you're even more idiotic than you look in that horrifying profile picture.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Wow, your commenting on a story months old. Just who are you again?

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