Normal to assume boyfriend is with someone else based on?

17% Normal
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Actually I saw a post similar to mine on here which was really weird but mine is a lil different.

My boyfriend was diagnosed with atypical depression. He had for 2 of the last 5 years we were together and although diagnosed he refused treatment. When he had one of his worst days, he said he couldn't be with anyone that he was useless and said I needed to find someone else then changed his status to single and stopped talking to me. But he came back apologized but he still was so messed up. So he would often not reply back to me for 2 or 3 days and because we lived with family, i couldn't just talk to him as he wasn't next to me so had to wait for him to contact me again but he always did and apologized but then the last time he hasn't replied yet. I let it go for a while now, months because I didn't want to push him.

But in the past few months I think he's with someone maybe even if just for support because:

-His Kik (it's like whatsapp) photo changed to him and a girl together taking a selfie but then was removed in minutes.

-On his Facebook there have been no posts so he must be hiding them from me

-His relationship status is now hidden. He must be hiding the fact he's with her just from me

-theres only one tagged post on his page and the girl who was in the photo is tagged with him.

-one of his new Facebook likes is a shop that girls sister owns

-He hasn't talked to me

Now none of this is like him but the facts point to this girl.. not much time has passed at all and he hasn't contacted me so it's making me sick. He is asian, usually introverted, mama's boy, kind, caring, etc

Is it normal? Sorry it was long

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17% Normal
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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Instead of trying to investigate through apps and facebook, ASK HIM.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    5 years ago

    I'm going to say something similar to what I said in that other person's post: He's basically ghosted you and is moving on with someone else. Block his number and cut him out of your life. You're better off moving on anyway. I've known people who dated people like your boyfriend and they went from happy and loving life to feeling sad, weighed down, and dead inside.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    I don't really understand why you still call him your boyfriend when you haven't seen or spoken to him for a couple of months. People in the military or other jobs which require them to be isolated from normal communication channels for long periods can justifiably say they're still in a relationship when the other person isn't around and they're not talking to them regularly, but this guy simply doesn't want to talk to you. The fact that you haven't had an official break-up conversation doesn't mean anything. For whatever reasons, he's detached himself from you, but he hasn't had the basic courtesy to tell you that.

    You say he has an official diagnosis of a mental illness. Do you believe that means you're morally obliged to hang around forever hoping he'll eventually remember you and decide to get back in touch? You may care for the guy, but you're not going to be able to heal him, and you have the right to be happy and with someone who treats you well.

    Consider it over and done with, and move on.

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  • KiwiWisdom
    5 years ago

    Don't make assumptions. That situation sucks, but if he's not responding you need to just focus on next steps for yourself. This situation isn't normal, but I think it's safe to say from what you do know the ball is officially out of your court. Nothing other people do is because of you, so try not to take it personally if he really did just give you the cold shoulder. Just move on with life and find reasons for you to be happy.

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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    you are like that river in Egypt de-nile . In any case im willing to bet a hunnard Dollars he got rid of his depression for the last two years . how is my diagnosis looking to you ? spot on ?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Huh? Can you please clarify I'm confused.

      I'm the one thinking he's with someone now so not denying anything. It's only been a couple months since we spoke..not years since I talked to him and yes, he had depression for 2 years. I wasn't in denial of anything. He had depression it wasn't him lying about it. I had to calm him down many days because he would come home from work crying over minor things and his close friends knew too. He was often disconnected , didn't smile , didn't react. We urged him to go on meds he didn't. I went to an amusement park with him and he didn't even smile on the rides.

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