Normal to ask for the gifts you gave to an ex-friend to be returned?

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A few weeks ago my best friend to me how she didn't see much of a reason for us to be friends anymore due to us being at different schools and her making new friends.

Tomorrow I'm going to go to her house so we can talk about, because she just moved on and left me here like an idiot wondering where exactly we went wrong in regards to our friendship.

Whilst I'm there tomorrow, would it be normal for me to ask for some of the gifts I gave her (A book or two and maybe a video game) to be returned? I find it a bit weird for her to have the gifts I poured my heart out on to be kept by her. After all, she told me she came to terms with the fact she didn't want us to be friends anymore and cut me off, with me not knowing anything about the way she felt.

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  • Faceless
    7 years ago

    Sounds reasonable to me.

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    I have just ´out of the blue´started to ignore people too. But I feel like that´s only acceptable if we are talking about people you have hung out with once or twice.

    Somehow I feel as if it´s more rude to tell people "You are fucking retarded, I gain nothing from hanging out with you and I´m rather alone with my guinea pigs and cats" than to just ...distance yourself from them.

    But if this person is a best friend, it´s different. She owes you an explanation.

    Unless you have been a creeper and tried to flirt with her over and over again and not stopped doing annoying things when she told you to quit.

    Regarding your gifts, fuck that. A gift is a gift. Don´t waste money and time throwing gifts at people. A real friend wont ever demand such things from you.

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  • SirChazwickEsquire
    7 years ago

    A gift is a gift. Don't be that fucking indian giving person no one likes. Just cut your losses and move on. Make new friends but don't buy gifts for anyone if you are going to be an indian giver. Whether your friendship is over or not..you just do not demand your gift back. I am so super cereal right now.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      I used to think the "indian giving" term was racist until I realised it actually refers (accurately) to the many promises and treaties and grants of land which were made to the American Indians and then taken back.

      What does "super cereal" mean?

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        7 years ago

        And then you try to play the smart-guy. Good one.

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      • SirChazwickEsquire
        7 years ago

        Cereal=super serious.

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  • FANGirl
    7 years ago

    I had this happen to me recently, for reasons much worse. The "best friend" basically pretended she was kidnapped by someone and had us all worried sick. I cried for weeks and weeks. She pretended all her accounts were hacked by these "kidnappers". I had fights with them. Then come to find out she was just sleeping around with someone on her poor, and perfect, boyfriend that we were all friends with, and didn't want us to call her out on it. So everything was hoaxed. She's the most ungrateful person I have ever met aside of one other girl. I paid for her a computer, and countless hundreds of dollars over our 7-year "friendship" that she, now looking back, used and treated me poorly in.......I'd never think to ask for those gifts back. In fact she just disappeared after I had poured MY heart and soul into making her homemade candies and searching stores for things she'd like.

    Just move on. People like that aren't worth your time. And you'll be the better person by cutting them off and pretending like it doesn't phase you.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    So are you going to return the gifts she gave you?

    I find it "a bit weird" that you'd even think of asking for this: a gift is a gift, not a loan until you want it back for whatever reason.

    She did tell you how she felt, you just don't like it and you think getting your gifts back will be some sort of punishment of her, which goes to show how petty and immature you are.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Not really, I don't like the fact that she spent the entire summer and autumn ignoring me, only to have her tell me she, on her own accord, decided we had nothing in common anymore and basically told me to fuck off.

      Stop trying to sound like a smartass just because you think you can know everything of a situation by reading a few lines of text.

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