Normal for my parents to loathe my homosexuality?

It is really very sad for you and them that they can not accept the way things are with their own daughter. I hope you are holding up OK despite their lack of support and acceptance.

You had no way of knowing they would behave so badly & extreme. It is probably hard on you but you must accept that this is a problem of their own making for which you have no responsibility. If your mom needed therapy about this she needed it before this.

They are being ridiculous and with no consideration to the damage it is doing to their relationship with you. Try to stand back and forgive them - or at least stand back.

What happened to UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?????

Sounds like your mum neeeds to grow up and remember that you are still her child. Don't worry as long as you and your girl friend are happy that is all that you need

I'm sorry):
Not all straight ppl are like that. I'm straight and I love you!!! <3

Its normal for parents to do this, even if they are generally tolerant or even accepting of Homosexuality. It flies in the face of what they thought, and it scares them. Sometimes, they may not understand anything about it, and may get caught up in the anti-gay thing. Most parents wont like the news right away, even if they have nothing against gays. It takes time for a parent to accept those facts. oh, and dont force them to accept it, as they will hate you even more.

I would be so hurt if my parents didnt love me for myself, im so sincerely sorry, honestly. If i were you, i would my parents that if you dont love me for who i am, then your not my parents. Im not choosing anyone over you, but if you cant love me because i chose something different than you, screw off.
Im realling sorry theyre putting you through that :(
Its normal for parents to do that though, they feel like you have to do everything to suite theyre wants.

oh my god , iv been reading through these comments, WHY are people disagreeing with homosexuality, just because they dont want to do it doesent mean otheres shouldent. it is discrimination. and any misguided judgmental religious person who uses god as an excuse to be homophobic i have no respect for at all, god said 'Love thy neighbour as thyself' so please, follow god's word ... and respect ya gays. =]

Just tell them that you don't care what they think, that you are yourself. If they continue to say 'no', be aggressive and tell them to fuck off.

Thats terrible! Even though im straight i'd say you should stand up to them for ruining your life!

Reading these comments, what always strikes me as odd is that the people who are shouting the loudest about homosexuality being totally okay are the same one's who often dis people by calling them gay. Somehow, our emotions understand that being a homosexual is a FAILURE and a metaphysically criminal activity but our intellect, which is characteristically the weakest part of our mental makeup embraces this absurd idea of what is so OBVIOUSLY an evolutionary dead end. (even though I don't believe in evolution in the ordinary sense)

What world do you live in where parents would be blase about their kid's homosexuality, it is quite normal that they don't accept it. I am not passing judgement here, but you need to put yourself in their shoes and see that when you were born, like most parents they probably had your life mapped out, moreso if they are religious.
That said, your parents are supposed to love you unconditionally and i'm sure they do, they just don't love your lifestyle. Give them an ultimatum, make them see that having you in their lives as a homosexual is better than not having you at all.

I hope it all works out for you, and that you and your family can find peace.

what is so bad to be like that? i mean it is human nature you shouldnt care what your parent say do what you feel.

To all religious people SHUT THE FUCK UP you morons!!!!keep your idiotic believes to yourselves and if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything!and to the author of this post..honey if they don't like it then that's fine.I understand that you feel bad about not having relationship with them but what makes you happy is more important then what they think about you or your lifestyle.As long as you are happy with who you are everything is good.Thrust ME!

In this society, it is normal. Doesn't mean it is right though. I'm sorry for your predicament.

lots of parents do unfortunately.
that must be awful
i hope everything works out with you

i think your reaction is normal
see a therapist

it is normal for your parents to act that way.
they had a painted picture of how your life was supposed to play out, and by you saying "hey mom, i like girls" you threw it in their faces. thats how they see it. Im 18 i came out when i was 15. my mom was the same way. but they did come around ha! now. my girlfriend lives at my house with me and my parents. so it is possible that when your parent(s) realize that they cant change who youve chosen to be, they'll come around. :)

Your parents are not obsessive they are your parents. So of course caring about what is going on in your life might have an impact on them. Your parents should love you no matter what though. I am sorry you are dealing with this and you are not bad for being gay. Your parents sound very narrow minded and does not sound like they are going to accept you. Do what makes you happy. You cant please the world forever and that includes your parents. Long as you are not doing anything illegal or immoral like murder you really have nothing to feel guilty about.

Well this sucks but If I was in your place I'd not let my mother suffer. Talk and time heals. Try and engage your mother positively and if she's not ready to compromise then Leave her at peace and hope she'll come around eventually

Love* whoever

I'm not gay but i am bi. Dont listen to their bullcrap. Do what the other person said. Ditch em when you go to college. My mom has told me that, that's why we have HiV and shizz. Which got me super pissed. I can't understand why people have to be like this. Aren't religious people supposed to be accepting to everyone? Guess not... But seriously. Were all HUMAN and that's what matters. I hope you can cope. :) I've whoever you want to love. Have fun. ^_^

If you're a christian family, that is totally normal. Your parents are worried for your soul. However, Jesus died for our sins and as long as you've been baptised and have faith in God, you're saved for the rest of your life. :)

If my son grows up and tells me he is gay, I will hate it too. I won't hate him, I'll always welcome him, but I will definitely hate the lifestyle, assuming he chooses to act on it.

Parents love their children, and want what they think is the best for them. Generally they don't think homosexuality is the right route and end up blaming themselves. I would be devastated if my child was gay, but I'd still love them nonetheless.

thats a little heavy, its a brave new world. and you only get one chance of life. live it the way you want :]

It's normal espically if your parents are christian.I don't think homosexuality is right, but, I agree with allowing people to choose.

your parents are narrow-minded assholes. ditch them when you go to college ... or get emancipated and just get it over with now.

dam thats my girls parents(mom,and step pop)......started out as the in laws from u know where...they r very judgmental christian type people... have to say though we have been together 3 1/2 years and they barley r coming around and its been a long way coming she had to move in with me the 1st week we got 2gether.....we didnt even knw eachothr...i knw for her it will prolly always be that 2nd best love....frm her parents an 4 me i will never be good enough 4 her....but we love eachothr very much an dnt care anymore what ppl think....make yourself happy 1st...then every1 else

They are normal you are not