Normal for me to be with a guy whose family are trashy...

when mine aren't?

His mom and dad live in a tiny rundown ranch house, but I'm okay with that because inside, its normal, not trashy at all. They try hard to keep it looking decent and they never swear, ever.

Here's what bothers me:

-His brother lives in a trailer, had a baby at 16, married at 18 and just got divorced with his wife.

-His sister lives in an apartment, got married at 20 to a guy who is 29 within 2 months of meeting each other. She never went to college, makes fun of me for attending it.
-Her husband's father and mother are divorced and his mother remarried to another man 4 years ago but just divorced him.
-Her husband's EX step father always curses excessively and drinks A LOT.
-Her husband's real fathers current girlfriend is closer to HIS age than his fathers age-shes only 39 while his father is 55.
-Her husband's EX step father's sister is 30 and lives in a trailer with her 5 kids and 7 cats. She dresses in dirty clothes always and talks with the F word every 5 minutes. She also got married at 18.
-When I try to talk to my boyfriends sister, she talks weird. I once wished her a merry christmas and simply asked what she was doing and she then said "I have no idea. Why would I know yet its only 11am, not later." Or, when she went to see a movie, "how was it?" she replied, "I dunno."

Also, I asked her for her address so I can send her a christmas gift and card. Her reply was "Okay, my address is : "her address was here" then she said "but i can't ask you for yours because ill forget it."

She was on a computer...

is it normal I'm stuck with them?
I currently live in an apartment with my boyfriend and we plan to move into a home someday and eventually get a home in another state. My boyfriend told her that and she freaked out about this and literally said, "haha that's not possible. you're so stupid don't you realize that you'll never have a house?"

WTF. Half my family own 2 houses...I'm NOT bragging, just stating the facts. It is possible and she KNOWS what my family has. No one in her family went to college except my boyfriend. HES THE FIRST to go. That's what their problem is and that's why my boyfriends mom works at mcdonalds flipping the burgers (literally).

I'm so embarrassed and annoyed with them as they're both rude and ignorant.. How do I put these feelings aside and is it normal to have to deal with this when I don't know anyone else as trashy as this?

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54% Normal
Based on 69 votes (37 yes)
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Comments ( 12 )
  • americanhoney

    Oh, she will find she cares ALOT....especially on her wedding day when they embarrass her by treating it like it's some kind of ho-down. Get out now, sweetie...get out now.

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    • BoredGuy

      LOL if she have this kind of thinking then HE shouldn't propose to her at all.

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  • BoredGuy

    muahahah, fcked up family indeed, BUT i think you only fuck with the guy and not his whole family? (you shouldn't care)

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  • randomjelly

    You seriously have to get over yourself. I'm not trying to be rude or hurt your feelings but merely trying to state the obvious. You are dating the man and not his entire family. You will never find the perfect in laws but while yours sound annoying they could be worse. I'd just spend time concentrating on your life and on your guy and try not to stress over the rest.

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    • I don't try to judge. I'm not judging. It's just not something most people end up with, you know? Most people don't end up with families that are this different and to swear excessively, it just bothers me. I'm used to well-mannered individuals who take education seriously.

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  • nothing2

    ran into the same situ recently. it's you projecting your own image onto your bf. he's part of the clan and so are the parents. they raised these people. what i mean is, don't kid yourself.

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  • WordWizard

    If you love the guy it makes sense you might overlook his family.

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  • lrasu333

    If his family has issues, your relationship will most likely develop issues. When you marry someone their family doesn't magically disappear. I would only stay with him if you REALLY are in love with him and you are able to deal with his family. However, if that thought terrifies you, get out now!

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  • CountryRoads

    If it doesn't bother you, then you shouldn't worry about his family.
    But, problems might come up. Are you okay with not living like how you're used to? Just because he's not trashy on the INSIDE doesn't mean he doesn't have the propensity to be trashy on the outside. Especially if he's used to sub-par living conditions. Usually those people end up in trailers, too. I'm speaking because I live in West Virginia...I know how this situation plays out.
    But, if you love him, then you have to deal with his family. Just don't let them change you or your standards of living.

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  • chicabonita

    I'm confused.. Who talks to their ex step dad?

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  • scotty4444

    RandomJelly is absolutely right, you are not dating his family, you are dating him. Now if he is just like them, and you are merely overlooking it right now because you are still caught up in the novelty, then it will end anyway. You shouldnt think less of others because they have not lived a privaleged life like yourself, and try not to hate them because they are jeolous of you and your circumstances. Dont make the mistake of thinking that you are going to change people either, if he is on his best behavior right now, once he relaxes you will see the future of your relationship. The same goes for his family, it takes a decade to instill trashy into a person, and it takes longer to remedy it. With regard to the family, only put into it what you hope to get out of it, or you will be let down. But keep in mind, he is not his family. I know from personal experience, my parents were the worst kind of parents, abusive, trashy, drugs, etc, divorced after a couple years because of mutual infidelity, and I am nothing like either of them. I graduated college, bought a new home, nice cars, excellent credit, clean, thoughtful, empathetic, etc,...the point being I am nothing like them.

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    • Thank you.

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