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Is it normal that my 18 year old boyfriend and I both still believe in abstinence until marriage, because nowadays that seems very out of the norm.
It's normal. But it shouldn't be. Sex isn't special, it isn't sacred, and virginity isn't something to treasure. Sex is as natural and primal and messy as sinking your teeth into a bloody rare steak. Don't treat it like anything else, and you'll be happier.
At this moment its just still there in the normal department. In a few years though it will be un-normal. Its the new thing to lose your virginity at a young age and experiment untill you meet the right someone to marry.
good 4 u,beats sleeping around, ignore everyone else u can live life your way the hell with the norm
It is totally normal, because u r yound( well u didn´t put ut age) and it is totally normal especially if u have a religion that estepulates it like cristhianity!
It's your belief, you are choosing not to follow everyone else, that is good for you both.
I do think it's quite normal - but then I live in an area of people with very similar beliefs - mainly due to religion.
I respect both you and your boyfriend's feelings - but sometimes I feel it's really worth it to experiment in a safe manner. It's all very well having a guy you love and care for, but I believe in a way if you don't get turned on by him sexually and in bed doing the right things, marriage might not be as enjoyable and good for both of you - especially if you'd want to keep things up to speed sexually in marriage.
But, like I said, if you're confident that you can find the perfect man without sex, then good for you! I don't think I could haha, i would have to find out how well endowed he was first :)
I have no problem with abstinance untill marriage but I think you two should talk about it. And for sure make sure you are sexualy compatable. Sex is an important part of a relationship but NOT the most important part, However if you two are not sexualy compatable it can lead to big problems. You dont have to have sex to find out if you are compatable tho. just talk about it.
Wowmemy we should chill sometime then lol. I'm sick of guys tryin to take advantage of me
I'm a guy and I feel the same. My problem is finding a girl who believes the same.
you don't buy a car without taking it for a test drive!
you really need to make sure everything is the right fit
What's popular isn't always right, and what' right isn't always popular. It's a sad thing that is' not normal anymore, but doesn't make any less right/good.
Even if you don't think of it from a religous point of view, which I know a lot of people don't , one should consider how fewer STDs and other such diseases would exist. If you and your partner are only ever with one person, there isn't a problem, and no chance of transmission.
So, no, it's not normal. But that doesn't make it wrong!
i second that. not normal, but in this case going against the grain is not such a bad thing.
But, here my problem with waiting until after marriage: what if you and you're partner are not compatible sexually. What if one has needs that the other doesn't feel comfortable doing ? This can lead to bigger problems.
Do you talk about it at least? It's important that you two know what kinds of things you like and whether or not you're compatible.
That is how GOD says to do it. So it should be obvious that it IS normal. If you can do this, you are VERY strong, stronger than me. You go girl.
Maybe your bf is just saying that cause he is so disgusted in you and doesn't wanna get near that area.