Normal baby daddy issue?

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I want to make him go away. He's a liar,manipulative, clingy and just doesn't get it. I told him I don't want be with him and I don't feel the same and I told him exactly why but this means nothing to him. He's like a robot, repeating the same self-pittying soliloquy over and over again like I'm gonna believe it one day. When i met him 10 years ago i thought him to be a desperate, emotional romantic but now i see he's just a sociopath.

I would cut him off completely but, alas, his child loves him and i don't want to deprive her of a father. Although, i think she would gladly accept a replacement as he has never played a very big role in her life. The only time he acts like he cares about her is when I proclaim my rejection of him. Then he wants her to live with him and only then is he willing to fight for her. These are threats, likely empty, but still they cause me to give into him slightly because of fear.

I do think I would win that battle ultimately, but I'm not in the best position right now. He has a job but I don't and he also has more living options. His family is just as crazy, if not more so than he is but I don't know if i could prove that as they seem pretty normal from the outside.

Is it normal to have to deal with this? What can I do? I wish he was the type of deadbeat that just sailed ship and never spoke to us again... I don't understand what he thinks he can get from me :/

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Based on 12 votes (3 yes)
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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Get a job. Then, get yourself a lawyer.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I think you need to get a job, like reminiscent said and find a guy you do like. If you get with someone else, this loser will probably get the idea and move on. I agree that his attention for the child is manipulative and probably will fade once he sees that he has no shot with you.
    Of course, the most important thing is not to allow the child to become a pawn, used to hurt the other party.
    Is he contributing to the child financially? That is also something the courts will look at. Keep impeccable records of any financial contributions and expenses you bear without his help, like medical, educational and special needs. The more he contributes, the stronger his case, should he seek custody. Be careful and it wouldn't hurt to seek the advice of a lawyer, now.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    Get a job... job hunt like there is no tomorrow. .. then dump his ass... he can have partial custody. ..like every other weekend and every other holiday.
    if you have a job and place to live you will most likely be able to keep your baby.... they tend to not like to seperate children from moms so long as you can provide for the child.

    There is a lot of help for single moms... such as food stamps and help with daycare.
    if you put in a lot of effort into getting a job... any job... then you can escape him quite easily.
    you shouldn't be forced into a relationship with someone you dont want to be with.

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