Nobody will fall for me as i am now...and i'm ok with that

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Honestly, I think that in my current position nobody would want to be my girlfriend. My habits are often disgusting and weird, I sound funny, I have almost no life, I am childish, etc. In fact, not only do I think that I can't get a girlfriend at my current state, but I think anyone who will still want to spend the rest of their lives together with me is insane.

Now before you think that I'm just beating myself up, I think that I do have the ability to get one and that I can change for the better, but for now I have other things to worry about. When the time comes to get one I plan to correct my habits before I start searching. But as of now, I don't think anyone would or should fall for me, and I'm OK with that.

Is it normal to hold this attitude?

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Based on 61 votes (47 yes)
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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago | pl

    "Let someone love you just the way you are - as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room."

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      What a perfect quote! It fits well with the OP's plight.

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    • RainbowDischarge
      10 years ago

      Its 2am. I fought with my boyfriend today. This quote is making me cry, but it is a good quote. Thanks for sharing it.

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  • LornaMae
    10 years ago

    So basically not only do you not care about it but you also don't want to belong to any club that will accept you as a member? I think that's pretty normal when you think little of yourself... and, quite frankly, it just sounds like you can't be arsed to be in a relationship.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Oh I have friends and would like to join clubs. I'm talking about romance/dating.

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      • LornaMae
        10 years ago

        Aww, I'm sorry, I guess you're not even old enough to get what I was trying to say! haha :)

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Please give my comment 1 more thumbs down I want my very first -2 rating that I see.

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          • LornaMae
            10 years ago

            I suppose I could since I didn't thumb you down to begin with, I do't think it actually deserves one. But if you insist maybe I could help you out hehe

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  • colourmoon
    10 years ago

    i think you probably have a healthier attitude towards yourself and love than most of the people.

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  • Hansberger
    10 years ago

    It's not normal to hold this attitude, but I know what it's like for you people to attempt to be normal, continually saying "I'm normal", you think you people are normal but you're not!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      If I thought this was normal why did I post this on "Is It Normal"?

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  • familyguy63
    10 years ago

    Suck it up and get some swagger!!! Maybe get off the computer for a bit!!

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  • watashikara
    10 years ago

    Its normal, I thought like that before, but then I realized there are so much more unique people around the world outside of my own city. Just make sure you love yourself and the rest will fall into place.

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  • green_boogers
    10 years ago

    Start a collection of blow-up dolls. Almost like a personal harem. Many people say a doll is the best because she never says, "No".

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    • disthing
      10 years ago

      She never says 'Yes' either, which is why she'll never be the best.

      (Until they have realistic sexbots who can say yes... Then man can finally exterminate womankind and replace her with submissive robotic slaves which I'm sure is exactly what Martin Luther King meant by "I have a dream")

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      • green_boogers
        10 years ago

        Hahahahahaha. You rock girl. Let's be friends.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    In some ways, I hold the same creed. I guess just less pessimistic, way less pessimistic the more I think about it. Anyways, it just sounds like you're aware of what makes a person conventionally attractive and you just don't fit it. You're aware that you're a cool guy, but since most people tend to fall under the same umbrella of what they want, it's only logical to conclude that you're going to be single. I'm not really phrasing this well, am I? Anyways, I understand your point of view, but I have no way of knowing if thinking like this is how others think as well.

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