No sex

This is only an opinion. It violates some peoples morals, but it's the truth
That I've seen and experienced. Sometimes waiting until marriage for sex can be a disaster. Aftet sex, you've moved deeper and closer to your beloved. As a result, a whole new level of issues, insecurities, personality flaws, come up and you may see that your incomparable. I'd rather know that BEFORE I made a commitment at it's highest level. Waiting, on the other hand, gives you time to really get to know that person on THAT level as well. Somewhere in between is where I would pursue sex. You'll know when that time us right. Good luck to both

Unusual, yes, but abnormal? No you're "normal" in the sense that there is nothing wrong with abstinence... And in some sense the waiting will make the experience MUCH better and more meaningful when it happens.... But beware the potential trap you two are setting for yourselves... If you set a lot of expectations in how "great" it will be once you get married, you could be in for a little bit of a let-down if things don't work right under the initial "pressure" or if one or both of you end up feeling a bit awkward at first, etc...

There is a good book on the subject of sex within a marriage, which discusses (among many other things) the subject of waiting until marriage for sex (and the benefits/potential pitfalls/etc)... Check it out:
"Real Questions, Real Answers about Sex: The Complete Guide to Love as God Intended"
by Louis McBurney, Melissa McBurney

There are many many others out there that are probably just as good or maybe even better information for you- but this is one I have read myself and I thought it was pretty good. Maybe you will find it useful too?

Good luck, and God bless!

god i hope you don't find out she's not a virgin when you marry her.

nahh but seriously we are in the 21st century if you were talking about victorian times it would be understandable but unless you are really into her i don't think it's worth punishing yourself like that. Just say that the church used to say that jews were responsible for the black death and burn women because bernard and john decided that they had magical powers. I don't understand how there are still catholics after that.

Hope it helps! restraining is no good for the couple you'll enjoy much more if you do what you are intended to do! HAVE SEX!

4 years? Jeez no, that's not normal unless one of you is a Christian and is holding off on pre-marital sex.

That's such a long time, have you asked her? I think it's strange for her not to grant you that closeness, maybe she is disgusted with sex. But you should really have had it by now.

get her drunk, eat her pussy and plunder that hot we fuck hole

I took a dump

OUCH...... how could you two deny yourselves for that long?!

THAT IS NOT PRACTICAL! GET LAID DUDE!

Thatcwas incompatible . Sorry about all the typos. Damn it, this phone!!!

Not normal. Sex is natural between two people that are attracted to each other, and that attraction is essential to a good marriage. It will help you through rough spots where words can't sooth every pain.

It sounds to me like she's not into you and you aren't into her very much, and you are using each other as excuses to avoid going after the sorts of people that turn you on.

Also, you should definitely find out if you two are good together in bed before getting married and starting a family.

I believe that a wise couple actually gets married in some informal sense well before the wedding. The commitment should be there before the vows are spoken aloud. And if you're already committed to stick with her through the bad times, you might as well enjoy the good times.

I was in a similar situation, with someone for seven years. never did marry her after all the sacrificing and waiting and holding off. we fell apart and she married someone else, giving him her virginity and life, not me. I've been haunted by the idea that she was maybe even having sex with other guys during that seven years that we were together. see, I think she led me on for all those years. used me. you know, Mr. right now, not Mr. right, and just wasn't honest with me. Why would she be, she had what she wanted until life told her it was now time to find Mr. Right. So, she knew that after all the waiting I'd done, if she'd given it to me, I'd get the impression that she really wanted to marry me. She didn't want to give me that impression I don't think, because she wasn't truly committed. she just wanted me to think she was, so she could keep getting the cuddling and all that to have someone around, sort of speak. but she didn't want to go without sex either. My guess is she was having it on the side with random guys that she didn't want to marry or give her heart to, and she could half give her heart to me when she wasn't doing them, even though she didn't want to marry me, until the right guy came along. See what I'm saying kid. don't do this to yourself. cut her loose and find someone who will be honest with you. you don't want to know how bitter you can become when you find out someone is totally different that you thought for years, and when you think about how they've ruined your life.

im impressed i wanted so bad to save that experience for marriage but as they say once you get so far its hard to stop. i also agree with in todays society this is not normal but i have so much respect for people that wait.
Good luck and God bless you and i hope your relationship works out for the best!

It's better than normal.. It's down right honorable. Hats off to ya.

maybe it isn't normal now but you have been with her 4 whole years proof of your truly love to her sex makes u fell different to a person believing that u love her instead of asumigs that u love her sexual organs LOL

you ever see those word cut-ups from the 50s beats? they take a sentence and cut it up and switch the words around like this... "I have been marrige with a girl and havent had sex with her for 4 years...

Unfortunately, in today's society its not condsidered to be "normal." But who gives a shit if anybody thinks its weird. I for one applaud you on your efforts and your goal. I wish more people did what you are doing.

Abstinence not only let's you better focus on each other but it helps strengthen both you and your relationship. It's not "denying" yourself, it's making it that much better for both of you.

Who needs sex when you have your hand(s)? Try to emulate the feeling of a woman's vagina by doing the patented "up and down" motion on your penis. Oh, and don't forget to grip it. Grip it hard until blood comes out.