No one likes me.

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I'm out of school. I'm working now... and all of the friends I did have (which were only a few, mind you) have all seemed to leave, when I don't make friends easily in the first place.

In my jobs I don't have friends... Most of them don't seem to hate me, and it does seem like we're friends when we're working together, but they all hang out with other people from the job and never me. I don't understand it at all. I'm very nice, I'm trustworthy, I'm not unattractive.

Throughout life, I've had 3 friends. I don't argue, I'm agreeable, easy-going, I *do* infact have a personality.

So recently one of my best friends decided to hate me. She's anal like this and I didn't do anything, so fine... whatever. I guess a 9-year friendship is disposable to some.

Soon after, my other friend, who asked me to be her bridesmaid, won't talk to me. It's strange because we were extremely close in high school. Afterwards, she moved away, went to college... and I started seeing her 3 times a year, at best. She's not a phone person, so I don't call her. She doesn't respond to texts, so I don't text her unless I have to.

Anyway, in her wedding there are only 2 bridesmaids, and the other bridesmaid is a friend that lives near me. Apparently we're both maid of honor status, though the other friend got to help her shop for her dress, and I still have not seen it. She doesn't call or talk to me, which I thought would be fine if I initiated. So I called her a couple of times and it was just awkward. Its like she didn't want to be on the phone with me, so I stopped calling and hoped she'd talk to me when she wanted to, considering she still refers to me as her 'best friend'.

This week I found that she has been talking to my other friend who isn't even in her wedding, and she's already sent this other friend photos of her wedding gown. and of the place where she's holding the reception. Which I asked her about in our phone conversations, and she had agreed to send me photos of the dress, and she didn't know where she was having the reception when I asked.

To top it all off, my boyfriend also broke up with me because we're too busy for each other. We weren't too busy for each other. And every time I want to do something with my friends, I get turned down. I'm never invited to anything... I just don't know what I'm doing wrong.

I want to get help but I have no medical insurance. I've been having huge anxiety over all of this and I can't sleep at night. I just wish I knew if there was something that wrong with me.

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  • janiepoopoo
    14 years ago

    odd man out - You do NOT give too much information. You need to give us all of the pertinent information and you did a very good job of that. I can certainly sympathize with you because I have felt very much like you have most of my life. I have no idea what has caused this problem for me because I too am attractive and have a decent personality. I think I have a social anxiety disorder, but I have had so many painful social experiences like you and completely understand where you are coming from. Good luck to you.

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  • xxrawr11wtfxx
    13 years ago

    Honestly I appreciate that you atleast notice that people aren't talking to you. Some people don't and it's very strange.

    But really though, even if you feel like no one really likes you I'm sure people do. Maybe no one asks you to hang out bc you seem distant?

    Do you put yourself out there?
    Maybe if instead of expecting to get invited, be the one to invite the others to do something.

    Don't just sit back and whine about it.

    DO something about it.

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  • familyguy63
    10 years ago

    People grow apart,especially when they are young. Doesn't mean that they hate you. Lighten up my dear.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Maybe the fact you don't try and talk to people. You expect everyone to pay attention to you but it does not seem like you are trying to get noticed. Why don't you try making friends. They probably think you are not interested in being friends with any of them.

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    I like you(im trying to get more allies on iin so i can become less of a jerk)

    here have a cute bunny!

    ...(Y)
    ...('.')
    .o(")(")

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  • Normallyabnormal
    12 years ago

    I can completely relate I've had a lot of bad experiences making and keeping friends. I feel the same way about people at work as well. I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting and hops things look up soon. That advice given about focusing on something like a favorite tv show as a constant helps. There were years in my life where "Friends" was my best friend. At least the title was fitting Hugs.

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  • LiveLaughLove73
    13 years ago

    Thatguy777^^ toally agree with u.. O_o

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  • YBNormal
    13 years ago

    Try being more of an introvert. That practically guarantees that people will want to be your friend. Trust me on this one. 0_o

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  • Thatguy777
    13 years ago

    People suck

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  • NopeNotNormal
    13 years ago

    Sad :( And I agree with janie - you didn't give too much information. You gave precise details which are needed when asking people for advice...which I just don't have. I can't imagine why no one would like you. The best I can come up with is to simply ask. What have you got to lose, yunno? Ask for some constructive criticism and go from there. I'd be your friend, though :) You seem nice!

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  • BlackShadow123
    14 years ago

    Don't worry about it. Nobody likes me either even though Im very nice. I even have people at school who talk shit about me even though ive never seen them in my life and have never talked to them. Weird, right?
    I dont even know their name and they already hate me.
    I don't know what it is, but people fucking suck.

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  • Silverstream
    14 years ago

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    I am so happy to know there is someone like me out there. I would really like to talk to you, because I know what you are going through. I know exactly how you feel. Empty empty empty. Please, message me somehow, and we can talk.

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  • naimsk
    14 years ago

    You know this is how I feel most of the time so, Think its normal but yet I think There must be somethiung wrong, as i am the same see my story and you will see..

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  • oddmanout123
    14 years ago

    Try not to get too down on yourself. It is natural to feel this way if you feel you are being abandoned but if you let all the bad things pile up, you will never get out of that hole. In some ways you can see this as an opportunity. I know it's scary to start anew, but now is the time. Go check out some new restaurants or clubs. Maybe google something your interested and find a club or other people who are interested in it. Just go out for a walk in the park and meet new people while doing this and form new friendships. When I feel like these things are happening to me I always like to think of the rock in my life. The rock is something that will be there no matter what. It can be anything like an amazing song or a favorite t.v. show. When all else fails and things seem bad, just lean on that rock for a bit to get you back up. I hope this helps you out!

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  • ilovemychick
    14 years ago

    first of all you give to much information. i.e. you talk way too much. when you are at work go sit with your friends dont wait for them to come to you also be more outgoing, talk to people even if you dont know them very well or even at all. find a common intrest and talk to them about it.

    call your friend who's getting married and ask her what she is doing, and about the wedding. see whats going on with your friends lives.

    if you want another boyfriend and you ARE actractive then that should be no problem for you. just find a guy that you might like and just go talk to him.

    be yourself and people will respond to your confedance and you will make some friends.

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