No matter what she does,i cant to let go!! help!!

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Yes, im sure thier is a milliion stories on here about ones heart being broken, not sure if mine is the same or equal, but its turning into a real problem for me.. I have been one to have to deal with Trama about 8 years ago now, when i lost my brother in a car accident, i too was in the accident and suffered my own injuries.. After the accident i fell apart and didn't now how to handle the loss and i just completly shut myself out to the rest of the world,, years went by with out me having contact on a personal level with anyone, then about a year ago after all sorts of conseling i finally opened my heart to this one girl, i fell head over heals for this girl.. For the fist time in years as i said i was "feeling" again and i completly turned my heart and my will over to this girl, i gave it my best, but sadly enough she had her own issues, with codependency and unhealthy relationships in the past.. To make along story short, she over and over again cheated on me with her past boyfriends and her seportated husband of a year.. It was like non stop pain, she took her inter pain out on me, and cheated, talk down to me, took off for days at a time, but i still stayed, i still believed in her and i waited and waited.. As crazy as it sounds it almost turned into a commen acurance and i almost got use to her being with other guys from her past.. She left me again to go back with her husband, but she still calls me, writes me, text me, myspace's me, etc, telling me how much she loves me, and ask me to wait for her,and to let her work her heart out, and to let her figure herself out, she begs me not to move on and to not be with another girl, she says its going to happen, that she is going to come back to me, but i just need to wait.. I know myself well enough to know what i stay and i wait because im afraid to be alone again like i was for all those years, please don't call me pussy wouped and or any of the such, my problems run alot deeper than that, any advice, or just LET ME KNOW IS THIS NORMAL??

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  • THEEZ
    15 years ago

    It isn't normal just taking the abuse. It is normal however to grow some balls and man up over her, get rid of the dumb bitch and try seeking out another one who won't shoot u down. As far as yr brother goes, its time to move on and get stronger.you have the inner will and strength to do so.

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    Shes totally playing your emotions, using your vulnerability to get away with walking all over you

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    It's normal (to not be able to contorl your heart). But look at it this way, some people come in and out of our lives for a purpose. After the pain of losing your brother (which i am so sorry to hear) , she was what you needed to start feeling again. Which is awesome and hopefully you can start relating and opening up to others. However she's gone now, she has her own problems in her own head to work out. It is ridicuous for her to think she can have it all, be with her ex-husband and have a 'back-up' waiting for her should she ever need it. And your ridiculous if you wait for her. Theres a chance she will never come back, she is using as a safety net, and I think deep down in your heart you know you are better then this. You deserve somone who will love you truly and soley, who will be faithful and by yourside. Easier said then done but you know what you have to do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    If it's over two paragraphs i don't read it...

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  • sodas
    15 years ago

    letting her go its gonna be tough as f... but its necesary

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  • sodas
    15 years ago

    you should let her go. she is cheating on you and if she ever comes back she will do the same again and again. this girl has the need to have some one codependent to her (you) and thats not right. dedicate to yourself. find out what are your real dreams and goals. cut out every communication you might have with her. its not normal what you are doing, its really destroying your selfesteem. open your eyes you deserve better than that. dont you??

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