No idea how to feel..

Recently me and my best friend (of 5 years) have had a huge argument over a simple jokey comment that offended him. The whole thing made me so mad, because he obviously knew I was kidding for the context I put it in. However I did apologise for my actions, the first time I was slightly annoyed so when he asked "for", I had a go at him, the second apology ended in me calling him all names under the sun. The thrid time was more civil, but I refused to give a reason for the fact he was being so childish.

Everything seemed sorted however after he finally apoligised and I said sorry back. However yesterday I logged onto facebook to see he had deleted me, the same on Myspace and it was clear he had blocked/deleted me on MSN.

This irratated me and also hurt slightly. Is it right to feel so upset by this, I mean his the one being the jerk and I don't think it's fair his holding it over me, I mean, he has added me back on facebook and myspace, but with a threat...
"If you say anything bad against me, it's byebye"

Which really isn't fair, I mean for crying out loud, I don't want a friendship based on pleasing him, I don't owe him anything..

Am I right to feel upset by this? or am I just overeacting?

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Comments ( 11 )
  • billy_potato_face

    did you poo in his shoes?

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  • x6tence

    u got a great friend there hes a pathetic pussy for making a chick feel so terrible cuz of nothing but i agree in post above,theres no situation rejection doesnt make u feel hurt n sad unless u wanted to be rejected i swear let it out

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  • Gabriell

    I agree with the previous poster in 5 years you should have known each other well enough not to go through this stuff.

    Maybe it hasn't been a very intimate friendship. Besides, friendships can't evolve in a "I shouldn't say this it will upset him/her" environment. I can't remember how many times I've told my friends "What you are saying is idiotic, you are simply making excuses" and things like that always following a justifying why I think what I think(and I'm good at that). Because then I can tell to the other person, If you don't want the sheer truth why did you even ask? Do you want to solve your problem or just pretend it's not what it is?

    Maybe what you said about him/her was in front of somebody he liked? Dunno. Maybe he/she would expect you not to joke about something in front a particular individual. And also people with low self esteem that are trying hard to "build" a positive image for themselves in the eyes of other people either because they want to improve their social life or because they wanna get a gf/bf tend to react this way. hysterically. Which is completely idiotic in my opinion because it shows that they don't really feel good about themselves, because a truly confident person can "bounce" anything people say about him, it being either a joke or an offense, he won't feel any bad or he 'll even turn it to his advantage.

    All in all your friend is probably going through a phase.
    He is oversensitive because he thinks that people's opinion about him are oversensitive.

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  • Uhh. 5 years? No way, in that time, you two should have experience with arguments.

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  • Audacia

    No one likes rejection and you always want more what you can't have.

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  • This kind of thing has happened to me.

    It is really hard to know in these situations whether you are overreacting or just tired of being pushed around, bullied and made to feel constantly repentant because someone has gotten all offended about a crack, slip up or minor remark.

    You can give yourself some time to settle down. But I suspect this guy wants you walking on eggshells around him, has a big ego and likes to rub your nose in it.

    Is that your definition of a friend?

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  • JavaJones

    I have a friend that is like that too...she is always asking for your opinion or your advice, or help out of some situation. If you give her advice or an opinion she didn't want to hear then she would get very upset. Then she would block you on anything you happened to have her added as a friend on. It would usually last for about 6 months or so then she'd calm down and all of a sudden she'd appear online on my MSN as if nothing had happened.
    So I just humor her now, tell her what she wants to hear...let her make her mistakes and then act surprised when they happen. We used to be best friends, now we're reduced to online friends. To much drama.

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  • rina123

    okay so im taking it that your a girl and the friend is a guy.
    did you say anything to hurt his pride?
    cuz it sounds to me like he likes you and wat ever you said completley shot all of his hope of ever being with you, or you just really hurt his pride....

    but yeah normal feeling

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  • nothing2

    he's probably devastated.

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  • bloop

    from the sound of it hes the one taking it too serious and needs to stop being a douche... im guessing hes like 13-15 though

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    • holio

      Friends don't make ultimatums like that. It may be time to let him move on.

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