No hobbies no friends no accomplishments

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I'm 21 female. Never been really talkative or sociable. I always liked drawing and crafts I still draw a bit am pretty decent at it but there's always someone a million times better so why bother wasting hours for It to turn out crap. Obviously practice helps but ive been drawing for damn near 21 years and the average person fauns over my drawings i guess but compared to others it sucks. But it's always awkward when people ask my hobbies so I just say drawing. Anyway that doesn't mean crap in the real world and I honestly don't get what does. Any jerk these days can make friends abd freakin admirers just by running his mouth. I'm don't communicate well that way but that's all that's accepted it seems, anyway I'm getting off subject the bottom line is that I feel content just watching tv an sleeping. That is my goal, what I'm working toward by going to school getting a job and all this such things, have no interests other than that iin

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I know you express dissatisfaction in your work and a kind of aimlessness, but reading your post, you actually come across as frustrated and angry. Although you say you're happy to withdraw from society and not have the things other people have (or seem to have), do you really? Would you like a different life, but it's either too difficult or you don't know how to go about getting it? If you do, I'd invest a reasonable amount of time in this because it won't get any easier.

    As for your drawing, don't compare yourself to anyone. Your work isn't good only when compared to something. It's either good or bad on its own merit. People around you seem to think it's good. You might have to take their word for it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yeah, I guess I just want to know someone who shares my interests but I'm really having a hard time. Whenever I'm around the average person they aren't interested in what I say but what I do (drawings) or how I look, it's like I can't communicate other than that, so it's even more frustrating (I can easily write my feelings but saying out loud is a whole other matter) I guess I've given up cus I've been alone so long and I don't have much interest in doing what most people seem to like

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        I've had my own problems with communication (thankfully not so much any more) so I can understand how you feel. For me, it was a bit like being trapped inside my own body and surrounded by people I couldn't get through to.

        It bothers me when I see a post like yours because it's obvious that you are genuinely suffering. What I'm hoping is that you eventually find a job that suits your skills and you then find yourself surrounded by people like you and that you do feel comfortable with. To an extent that's what happened to me. My job is very good for me.

        Also, Mando said something interesting about 21 being a difficult age. I can back that up because it was for me too. It was also the beginning of my life coming together as I was forced (unwillingly, I admit) into choices that eventually turned my life around.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I forget what it's called but there's a pyramid of priorities theory in psychology I believe that dictates what is more crucial to a healthy mind and what's not.

    Point I'm making is: Let your passions (or your hobbies) dictate the course in your life.

    Just to warn you: Art may not be what you're called to do. I myself like to write fiction in my spare time but it's not why I was created. It's very possibly to have something you excel at and at the same time, be something you aren't supposed to use as a "North Star" for your life's journey.

    Best wishes.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It's always pointless, no matter what you do it will be nothing one day. Accomplishments are a sad delusion to boost ones self esteem, those who "need" to succeed are weak.

    Take comfort in simply living and dispatch this wretched thing we call social conditioning.

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  • party_in_my_pants666
    11 years ago

    This is me in a nutshell minus the school. I stopped playing guitar 4 years ago cus I also think I'm not good at my work but other people seem to really enjoy it. I'm confused also,hopefully we'll get out of this funk.

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  • Faceless
    11 years ago

    I like stuff too.

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  • Goomats
    11 years ago

    Don't give up. Try to exercise some self-discipline. As an artist, I have fallen into depressive funks like that, but step away from the TV and computer for a few days and see what happens. You might start something new.

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  • Lolaa
    11 years ago

    Don't think its normal, but I'm the same way..

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  • dude_Jones
    11 years ago

    You might be happier not working. Learn to live cheaply with welfare money.

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  • bristexai
    11 years ago

    First, if you enjoy drawing, draw. It doesn't matter if other people like it or not. Second, are you really happy with an asocial lifestyle? I don't think you are from the tone of this post. You sound, as dappled said, frustrated and angry. Try some social situations. For a while, I was acting like a psycho on here. That was because I was trying to be social (because everyone says socialization is everything and I wanted to at least try it out) and be something I'm not, and I was extremely stressed. You may find that you aren't like me and that you enjoy having lots of friends.

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  • Maya05
    11 years ago

    I have no aspiration at all, very few friends who I rarely see, and one or two hobbies. I'd rather just sit alone and play a video game or read. I'm going to school for a subject I am disliking more and more each day but there are no other jobs out there that I have any more interest in. I just picked a course I would be relatively good at. I'm very anti social and I feel that mixed with my lack of aspiration will ultimately lead to my failure in life. I don't feel like I'm meant to succeed in this world so why bother? I literally live my life to escape my life by playing a game or reading.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    21 can actually be an awkward age that way as you are mindful that who you are is still about a lot of choices, but you have yet to come in to your own. I hope you haven't decided to set the bar too low for yourself. And if you are feeling at all depressed - which you do sound like - see your Dr. That said, it is your life to live and to waste away contentedly, as long as you are OK with it.

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