No girl has fancied me in person for a long time

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I don't know why but whenever I get an opportunity to date (100% of the time will be through online dating) I find it IMPOSSIBLE to pluck up the courage to go out and see her. I'm not sure why... I am generally an unconfident person but it kind of bogs me down that I will cowardly refuse to turn it into a meeting in person. I can't tell you how many times this has happened Ive lost count but in the past few weeks I've had a good few opportunities to.

I only go on online dating out of boredom mainly it gives me some relief from feeling lonely aswell. The only other women I deal with on a day to day basis are the ones from work who are like twice the age of myself most are nice to me but its a low level kind of job and there's one or two who don't give me much respect although I'm pretty bright Ill never be an authoritive figure there.

There's no other females I actually come into contact with the only other things I do are college and football. College I don't particularly fancy anyone from there I just have male acquaintances there and hardly speak to any of the girls. It's not like I'm shy around women I'm equally shy around them as I am other men. I hardly go out as I have a lack of friends and things to do I suppose my goals are to work hard and play football which gives me the work/social life balance to not go too crazy.

Things were a lot easier when I was a teenager, Im 27 now and still never had a girlfriend but slept with around 20 women you're probably thinking 'wow this guy has no problem finding a woman' most came from when I was younger I was confident happy and I had a life nowadays my situation is a bit laughable. I think anyone has more prospects than me (probably not true but I kind of believe that in myself).

This whole thing could just be an inferiority complex but I want to hear there's others out there like me who are basically paralysed by the thought of dating. I have faith that if I was to initially meet someone in person and actually somehow get a number that i would have no problem going somewhere to see them but that's a big IF. I suppose talking to a girl online there's no real connection like what you get from seeing them in person. I can talk dirty for instance online I wouldn't do that in person lol If you meet someone in person to begin with its a bit different I guess?

I'm pretty average looking I am unconfident though just need to make a huge change on the ways things are going so advice please??

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  • Unnormalgirl
    9 years ago

    It depends on the person, and how people see you. If it makes you feel better, no one fancies me at all, so your problem is more lightweight than mine :P

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    • Lawrencepa
      9 years ago

      I get the odd comment that may be considered flirtatious like I went to buy glasses the other day then the cash till sprung out and she asked if I did it jokingly I just responded "no wasn't me lol" bit of a lame response. I blame things like that on being spur of the moment but I know it's something deeper. No one fancies you at present you mean? I only talk to girls over the counter at my job as I'm a receptionist and it's literally talking to provide a service. They probably laugh that I'm in such a girly/low paying job cause I work at a doctors aswell. I'm far from ugly just overweight I put on a lot recently but I feel like they won't like my personality much.

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  • wafflesundays
    9 years ago

    Put more excitement into a woman that you might like. maybe your not ready so don't force it

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  • wafflesundays
    9 years ago

    Get your self out there I can sense fear on a guy I personally find it a turn off so act confident. Smile it catches peoples attention always be cheeky but funny you will be fine we all got it good at some point in our lifes with the sex but when we stop trying others can feel that energy and dont feel like ur tryin to pursue anything. Hope you get laid soon

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    • Lawrencepa
      9 years ago

      I met with like 2 girls in quick succession last year I don't know what came over me though. The first one we literally went McDonalds drive through had a kiss in the carpark then left. I was hoping it would just be a ONS anyway but this girl way below my standards wasn't interested. The other girl felt like there was potential to begin with as there was a second date but after she told me there was no future for us. She also spent the night with me on a couple of occasions. I don't show signs of nervousness on or before a date. I don't know what's wrong with me tbh. It's a mix of confidence/laziness I think

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