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Alright well, I'm 18 and i love older men. I just wanted to know if this is like, really creepy. When i say older i mean like, 33 and up. So am i a total weirdo? The oldest i would go though is about 45
Once someone is 18 they are an adult and can date anyone they choose. Follow your heart, there are plenty of decent older guys out there if that is what you are in to. Don't pay any attenion to the ageist fucks!
HELL YES lol i looooooooove older guys i have since i was 10. I feel like young boys r naive and older men are more experienced, usually more financially stable, more sexually experienced, and idk theres just somthong hot about older guys for me :) 30 seems young to me hehe
Oh My Gosh you're like my freakin twin! Haha I'm the same way..18 and attracted to 30 and up..45ish is my limit as well.
I love older guys too. have since i was really young. i only date guys 35 and older. the oldest i dated was 57. follow your heart you cant help who you fall in love with
I just turned 23 this January and I have been with my fiance for over a year now and he will be 34 this July... I have always been more into older men than younger me... and I had a great relationship with my dad, he was a single parent and my everything... so it's not because of some male authority figure issue... I just relate better to older me and come to think of it most of women friends are older as well... hmmm mybe I'm just an old soul, when I was in highschool I would have much rather hang out with my teachers than my fellow pupils... anyways, coming back from my tangent... I think its perfectly normal, age is only a number.
I like 40 too.
It's because they're stately, majestic, and represent something of a father figure. It's a totally biological response. Back in the Victorian era girls who were 18 used to marry men who were 30-35, and it was perfectly normal. By this time he had a stable career, could provide and care for her, was mature enough to be responsible.
we don't like young kids because they can't 'give us' anything. We don't see in them any kind of possibility for a future. we see them simply as 'children.' I see a 20 year old guy and even if he is in school and educated, I cannot be attracted to him. My BF is only 2 yrs older than me (25) but he has those qualities of being an older, responsible man that i like.
Weird, I think it's ok for you to like older men but I'd be digruntled at the idea of a 30 year old who is all about 18 year olds.
This can be a good and a bad thing.
First off most people with this sort of behavior tend to have some sort of psychological issues with family (especially that guy named dad). Dating older guys is fine, but being 18 and going for 33 and up usually is a bit of a stretch.
Second, you have an increased chance of finding a guy with psychological issues as well. What does this say about guys who are older going for teenagers? Might be something to think about.
Third, you are in a completely different place in your life then men older than 30. After 30, guys might be looking at retirement plans, having kids and getting married (if they haven't already), switching jobs, mid-life crises, etc. You on the other hand, are looking at world for the first time right after high school, and having been there myself, learn a lot more about the world and how it operates. From 18-25 you change a frickn lot, and that isn't compliant with relationships.
If NONE of these three things are a factor for you, (Things with your father and family are okay, the guy(s) you find are in good mental health and like you for who you are and don't just want a young hottie, and well the third option you can't control) then you have nothing to worry about. Dating older isn't a problem, but problems can arise given the reasons I just mentioned.
Just be careful and have fun.
im in love with two older guys in their 40 im around one most of the time and im happy. though i dont think he knows i like him.by the way im 18 too.
Here's the problem in logic that young girls don't see. While older are men are richer or more experienced or whatever (these should never matter anyway) I do not believe they have more respect for a woman. Sure the average older man does, but the average older male also has a wife his age who he's been with a long time. Old men that date a girl that young are using you as merely a sex toy. So while you think wow I must be special because he likes and notices me youre far wrong. It can never lead to a real healthy relationship aswell based on outside opinions, age barriers, culture differences, trains of thought, etc.
Not sure where you got your information but this is not always the case. My fiance and I and very much in love with one another and he was not with any one when we meet and was never married. And as for how he treats me; he is very respctful (more so than most guys my own age or younger). He is also VERY supportive of my dreams and ambitons. The finacial issue; him nor I are rich or wealthy in any way, we both have full time jobs and make it from month to month. And as for the sex, yes when we have sex its amazing because I dont have to worry about him figuring out how and what to do but that is not all our relationship is or has ever been about. So yes we are in a very healthy, respectful, and love ing relationship.
When I was a teenager I was really into older guys. I think it was to do with not having a dad around.
I would say though at your age you should avoid going out with much older men (like over 30) because a lot of the time they can be manipulative of younger people. I only say this because I was raped by an older man at your age.
You will probably get over it though, most likely when your in your mid 20's. Say your 25 and he is 65....really??
He has the most beautiful head of platinum hair, he penetrates me with his big steel blue/green eyes as he gazes directly into my big brown eyes. It's been almost 4 years and he still won't tell me his age. I have a feeling he's atleast twice my age. He mesmerizes me with his deep kisses and pleases me the way no other man can. He navigates every inch of my body with such love and tenderness, I feel like his Goddess. I will love him forever. I will be there to protect and care for him when he's older, the he has done for me. I love you my R, I am forever yours.
I'm 18 and I've loved older men since I was in my early teens :) I prefer a man 34+ and currently dating a 47 year old. I don't have daddy issues either but I still think it is completely normal!
Is this about security of money for sex, I know lots on both sides doing this
You don't have to have everything in common to have a good relationship, and you don't have to have ANYTHING in common to have good sex. What you like is what you like, and nobody can tell you it's wrong as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult.
I'm an older guy (47) who loves younger women. I find them delightfully open-minded, fun, and unspoiled compared with women my own age. . . and I like to be with someone who is young and hot enough for me to physically worship in bed.
The problem for me is that I feel like I can't make the first move on the women I'm interested in, for fear of being creepy. I'm up for a relationship but not clingy or jealous or needy, so if a young woman is interested, she just needs to let me know, and let me know what her boundaries are.
So, do you live in Northern California? I'd love to meet some interested young women! :)
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Yes its perfectly normal. I am 18 and my boy friend is 29 he was my first crush and we decided once I was 18 we would be together after 5 years of waiting we are finally together. But I waited until I was 18 to be with him and we are madly in love.
From experience, I say be careful about the power dynamic. Make sure that you have equal footing where it's important (it's ok - totally normal - to play around with dominance in the bedroom, but be damn sure that he doesn't think he's the boss of you in other areas. As soon as he starts treating you like a child, even a little bit, get out of there. Older men with pretty young women can get jealous, possessive and unpleasant very quickly).
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/ has lots of good stats and graphs on this stuff.
Basically: yeah, normal, and you'll find LOTS of us men who're interested in you, to :)
well, you would get some good experience for sure!! the older can be a good teacher and probably spoil you to the finer aspects of sex.
It's very normal and it is a really good thing, because there are a lot of older men that are attracted to young woman!
not a bad thing. Older guys usually have more sexual experience and more money anyway, and they have more respect for a woman.
only bad thing: youd better lear to change Depends(just messing with ya!)