New to this. help

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I got out of a 5 year abusive relationship in March. So I'm new to the whole dating thing. (I'm only 23) so please help me!

Met this great guy who made some mistakes and is getting his life together. He tells me he's not ready for an actual relationship yet, but he's play with sort of dating and taking it slow, this is fine that's what I want too. BUT he texts me all day, every day, we've slept together, and he's making future plans to hang.

Does he actually like me and is just taking it slow? Or does he just want to have sex and he's texting me because he's bored.

Yes sex 5
Yes relationship 4
Maybe both 14
He doesn't like you. 3
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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago | pl

    You've just got out of an abusive relationship and you are willing to have a go with some 'guy who made some mistakes'?
    I'd be super careful to not repeat my mistakes, if I were you.

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    • Akell
      8 years ago

      I guess I didn't really phrase that right. Bad mistakes I mean he's 24 and dropped out of college. Not just got out of prison or something Hahahaha.

      He's a good guy.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Fair enough. Today, being 24 without an education that left one with a six figure debt that doesn't even guaranty one a job, isn't necessarily a poor decision, IMO.

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        • Steve2
          8 years ago

          But swapping the digits in the number 24 and marrying someone that much younger than you is.

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          • thegypsysailor
            8 years ago

            If you think having someone in your life to love and who loves you is a mistake, then you are lying your ass off about that IQ number. Lying your fucking ass off.

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            • Steve2
              8 years ago

              I was in a relationship with a girl when I was 14, and realised after 2 years that I was being stupid, devoting so much unnecessary time to something so insignificant and useless as a sexual relationship. When I left for college at the age of 16, I finally ended the relationship and have since raised myself above such useless and empty sentimentality. I am more successful now at the age of 20 than most people will ever be in their lives, and don't intend to be sucked into the awful void of worthless attraction and desire again.

              So, yes, love can be a bad mistake, especially for people like me who have better things to do.

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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    Consider talking to a counselor since you may not be ready for a relationship. You spent five years in an abusive relationship, which means you're not good at discerning what is best for you.

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    • Akell
      8 years ago

      I have been seeing a counselor since May :)

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