New guy turned down sex because he's afraid he'll lose me

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So basically, I told him we should have sex sometime and he said that even though he'd want to he can't because he is afraid that if we do it and I end up not liking him, he'll lose me? He says that he wants to date me for a long time but even though he really wants to have sex, if he loses me maybe because I won'tlike it or some reason, he's paranoid that once we have sex we'll become estranged. Umm wtf?

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  • Ummitsme
    6 years ago

    Maybe he has a disfigured wenis. If its not for religious reasons idk why any guy would say that. He's cockblocking himself lol. Worst game ever. Or maybe he's on to something. He gets your expectations so low that even if he performs mediocreally you're pleasently surprised.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Three most likely possibilities 1. he's a virgin and scared he won't know what to do 2. It's disfigured in some way 3. It's smaller than normal, or at least he thinks it is (everyone knows how men get Hung up on size). Solution: ask if he's a virgin or if there is any other reason he doesn't want to have sex with you. If he has a real reason be gentle, reassure him and enjoy. If he can't give you a good reason tell him he either man's up and starts satisfying you or he gets his marching orders.

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    • CheyChey
      6 years ago

      It's all of the above reasons you've said, we tried to do it tonight but it was incredibly small and he couldn't even get hard,we tried for hours.

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      • [Old Memory]
        6 years ago

        I guess if you spoke to him about it he would have been feeling under pressure. Really depends now if you are willing to persevere, I probably would for a while at least if I really liked him that is. Why not try telling him not to worry for now, plan an evening with just a good film and a bottle of wine or something, curl up on sofa with scented candles turn the lights down etc then when he's totally not expecting it start giving him oral, see what happens and where it leads.

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      • insanebotv21
        6 years ago

        Has he tried Viagra, or is it painful for him to get an erection?

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  • Yennifer_Of_Vengerburg
    6 years ago

    I think Trans, STD Or Gay. Probably trans since lets be honest only women turn down sex like that men are usually happy to quit wanking off. I don't wanna say it's not normal but its offish you need to get to the bottom of this.

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    • rayb12
      6 years ago

      I turn down sex all the time and am a man

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  • Dustyair
    6 years ago

    Sounds like a warning sign right off the bat.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Could be based off a negative past experience. Fear of whatever happened before will happen again.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    It sounds like he has performance anxiety.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Maybe he just wants to wait until he knows you better. That’s not abnormal.

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  • ysgadksjab
    6 years ago

    He just sounds insecure to me. I'd just find somebody else, it's obvious he's not comfortable with it.

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  • curious-bunny
    6 years ago

    I get why, he probably has bad experience if once getting sexual with someone they just fall apart, just be understanding and accepting. I've been there were he is, it sucks

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Excuse to avoid telling you he is a virgin maybe?

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    • McBean
      6 years ago

      This sounds likely. Google up "How to break in a male virgin." Teach him to be naughty your way.

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    • BipolarDiscounts
      6 years ago

      Says the crackpipe whore!

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      • insanebotv21
        6 years ago

        Crack whores tend to be at least proficient in whoring

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  • BipolarDiscounts
    6 years ago

    Its a shim!

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    he sounds like a fucking faggot. the only reason to date a woman is to hit that pussy as many times a day as you can.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Its happened to me. It probably has happened to him before and that's why he is worried.

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