New boyfriend after 25 year of marriage with my father
So as the title suggests: Is it normal that my mother got a new boyfriend after 25 year of marriage with my father?
Like many divorces my mother and father seperated because they simply couldnt be with eachother anymore. So my father moved out and got himself a new apartment, this was October 2013 last year. So we were now 2 family members in my mothers house, me and and my mother. She Went for a vacation to her home country for a week. When she returned home she told me something really chocking. She told me that she met a guy who is a Mutual friend to her friend, who happened to be a father with a daughter. She told me that this man lived in Canada ( like me and my mother do ) but he was an immigrant who lived with a crazy woman who made Life really difficult for him and his daughter, she was a junkie in many ways so yeah that says it all. Then she asked me: Sam please can we take care of this man and his daughter for like 6 months until they can settle and make their own living? I was furious at her because i told her that she had just divorced after such a long marriage, and first thing she does is to help some stranger. Dont get me wrong i like helping people and stuff, but my mother in our family is known to have helped people her whole Life instead of focusing on our family, sad thing is she never got anything back in return. I was terrified that she will just get used again because she is not a very smart person.
Fastforward 1 year later, the man and my mother are a couple and they have lived with eachother since November of 2013, his daughter lives with her mother. He is a cool guy fortunately. But because i didnt feel emotionally well living under the same roof of my mother, i moved in to my fathers place.
I´ve thought about this matter for a long time, she has time after time with her actions proved that other people are more important, not so much in Words but her action speaks for themself. I couldn´t help to ask myself this: Is it really normal that a woman, after 25 year of marriage with a man after divorce, goes to a vacation to, meets a man who she feels sorry for brings him to our household and now he is part of our family? It would be different if she did this after a long time after divorce, but she has throughout Life continously proved that focusing on strangers is more important than her family, im used to it so no biggy. But this was just all i could take, is a person really that dependant on others? Couldn´t she just settle down for a while Think through the whole thing out. Maybe get closer to me and settle her differences with me instead of trying to be a hero all the time?
I would really like to know what you guys Think, is it a perfectly normal thing to do after 1 month of divorce, or am i just overly sensitive?