Never had gf!!

hey guys i need help.

im 19 year old guy and i never had a gf and i only kissed two. i am a very insecure guy its very hard for me to go up to a girl and just make conversation cuz i never know wat to say and i end up screwing up. can you guys help me over come this please and thanks

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  • OMGWTFITSED

    They have this thing called the Bunny Ranch. It makes it so you never need a girlfriend.

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  • IkeBroflovski

    Dude during my school years I was so shy I couldn't even look people in the eye. All of that changed though as I got older (27 now) and here are some observations I've picked up:

    Girls don't bite (obviously). Why then are you so scared? It's cool to admit that girls intimidate you dude because they do - you, me and 99%% of other men out there.

    Ever stop to wonder why you're so hesitant to talk to someone? She's not going to jump up and knee you in the balls you know (unless you're a creep).

    You know that cute little thing that's in front of you in the queue at the bank? The one you silently wish you could tap on the shoulder and say hi to? Well my friend, believe it or not, she's standing there silently hoping the nice looking young man behind her would summon up the courage to tap her on the shoulder and say hi.

    Scared of mumbling something stupid and coming across as a fool? Well she's worried about the exact same thing.

    Have a look at facebook, the personals in the papers, dating sites etc. There are millions, upon millions of lonely people out there - men and women. And yet a smile and a hello would cure many of those people's problems.

    Please take note however that you will crash and burn sometime. Again though, it happens to everybody dude. Even the best marksmen don't always hit the target.

    Good luck.

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  • dablur

    How did you kiss 2 girls if you never went out with them?

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    • haleyxbailey

      kissing doesnt require dating. ive only had three real boyfriends but kissed a lot more than that.
      id say just talk to them being friendly and go from there. texting and talking online can help to since you can think about what youre gonna say.

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    • Blade

      well one we were at a party and it just sort of happened and the other i dont remember how we just kissed

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      • rainmay

        that sucks.
        id hate to lose my 1st kiss from a party.

        just smile a lot.

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  • PISSBONER

    19 WILL GET YOU INTO AN ALL NUDE JUICE BAR. BRING MONEY.

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    • qweedawee

      well like the first comment said ur just gonna have 2 learn how 2 talk to a girl try and go to the grocery store and spark a conversation on something or try and make a girl laugh that would do it for me =)

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  • xino00

    well all I'll say is this world is farked up.

    1. It depends on your aim.
    If you want a chick you just wanna sleep in bed with. Then you can only meet those kind of girls in clubbing and parties.

    2. Some chick are hungry for money, you are nothing to them if you don't have money.

    I myself don't have a chick yet, but don't plan of having one yet due to problems in life and the state of this farking world.

    But if you really want a chick:
    Here is my ultimate weapon. If you see a girl you like anywhere in location. IF SHE GIVES YOU eye looks and contacts. Then she's interested in you.
    And by all means, I suggest you speak to the girl EVEN though you are shy or don't know what to say.
    Because that girl will understand even though you are shy, even she will be shy to start conversation with you that is why she uses eye contact.
    More also, girls love shy boys.

    Have had this opportunity many times but always miss because I can't be bothered with them. Until I saw one on the bus sometime and I used this and it worked.

    Another suggestion I will advise you is to use site such as Paypal or Facebook. Get to know someone who lives close to you and communicate with them. Because the other advise I gave you, sometimes the girl giving the eye contact may think you are a n00b/weirdo and just want you out of her face as soon as you start speaking to her.

    As for facebook, orkut, paypal. Make sure you know who you are communicating with, because there are too many predators out there.
    (And don't think about dating sites yet, you are too young/early for that. Only use if you are going 25 )

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  • Just come up with a casual conversation.

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    • And I agree with anonymousness, if they're a erally loud person I wouldn't try them

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  • Find a quiet girl (I say this because loud ones are negative in almost every way) who will understand and get close to her.

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  • Hot_Emo_Chick

    Theirs Nuthing wrong wit being shy and nuthing wrong dat your 19 and neva had a gf otay:]

    Most of us gurls would rather go for da shy boys there WAYY more caring and not no ass hole off da street!!! You can talk to a gurl for a lil one day and dont see her for a whole week or so dat will drive her crazy:)

    I am 14 and had 2 bf's one when i was 11 and one now:) I neva been kissed but I have been touched in all kinds of ways if ya kno what i mean:) and idc bout da kissing thing cause i kno it will happen when da time is right:)

    Best of luck:)

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    • Blade

      hot emo chick

      thank you for your advise but see here is the problem i have always done that and well it hasnt worked so far and im 20 now.
      also ive heard a lot of girls say that, that youll would rather go for a shy guy, a good guy, but u girls always end up going out with the guys that treat u like shit. i mean i dont mean to put u on the spot but u yourself say that you would rather go out with a shy guy but you have been touched in all sorts of ways by idk who and well him or them arent wat i consider shy or good guys u know

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      • This is my new one(: Lost my password. But yea it's still meh.

        Your right I have been through a lot of pain with relationships and without. I lost everything when I was 8, 11 I got cheated on, 12 I was told by my best friend he likes meh and to find out he was using meh, at my weakest I met the boy of my dreams right before I turned 14, I can't sleep unless I speck to him right before, I can't stay mad at him no longer then a day, and Can't go longer then a week without talking to him. If you thought I was talking about guys touching meh where they shouldn't be hah hell no I meant like my inner thigh, my face ya know.
        I haven't done much but that does not bother meh my family tells meh all the time I will be the first pregnant and first in jail.

        All I have to say is believe.
        People say life is short so to meh you never grow old.
        My dear, you seem like a very sweet young man don't let this get in your way of living your life.
        Btw, I'm sure any girl would be lucky to have you.

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      • rainmay

        i agree. sadly they dont seem shitty at first, then they become mean and assholistic.

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  • lovesick

    I will go out with you and we can go to to dinner and ill give you desert(:

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  • flabbysexy

    im an 18 year old girl, and i've never had a boyfriend. on the other other hand, i've had 21 sexual partners. i'd rather be in your boat fella. i've got a reputation, and it isnt getting me far in this life. wait and cherish it.

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  • Dugfunny

    Dude your way better off then I am. Im over twenty and have never so much as kissed a girl. I have no problem talking to them and have been nothing but nice to the people around me and 95 percent of everyone Ive ever met have completely rejected me as another human being. Every girl Ive asked out has rejected me and most of them do it in a way as if defending themselves after being insulted.

    I tried to talk to some girl at work and she told me to shut up and kill myself, then promptly left.

    Your doing far better then I am.

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  • wannarocktheworld

    same shit with me bro

    never talked much with girls whom i had no interest in, and never had the balls to goto the one i was interested in more then my life

    me 18yr old homme

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  • princessai

    persoally ive only ever had1 bf but he was a dick he only wanted to get me in bed i like shy boys there sweet many girls do so dont worry or preasure ure self kay ;p

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  • 4w04se

    uh just Chill ...... be urself and be friendly ..if u like a girl and see her many times.. in uni maybe.. well go around her and ask about anything .. she won't walk away from u ofcourse unless you said something offensive (So think before you say it).. And when you see her again just say hi.. and don't show that you're too much into her or she might turn u down.. just start out friendly. Then, just whenever u meet her ask her hows she doin.. that is what I find sweet actually, someone who cares to know how im doin :)

    PS. I like shy guys myself.. But don't be shy for so long.. it would be boring :(

    Goodluck Dude

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  • Rayne

    I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months. He's about to turn 18 and before me, he never had a girlfriend because he was too afraid. I asked him out. But be yourself around girls, don't fake it because you'll end up with the wrong one. Just be natural, be yourself, have a little bit of patience and it will com eback to you tenfold when you find the right girl.

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  • purpledino8

    awww im a girl, but im like that too sometimes with guys,but its ok...they might be feeling the same way, just be yourself..and wait for that right girl.
    its super normal :)

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  • Magnetising

    What next? Penetration? Cease...

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  • SyC0Pathik

    dude im 18 almost 19 and i haven't even been kissed my advise go into a conversation with a girl with preconceptions try not to be nervous i no it can be hard but you can do it and most of all act normal man dont try to pretend to be something your not thats probly why u end up failing at relationships

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  • ViVaLaBC

    this is very normal.
    the guy im with now. i'm his first girlfriend. =]
    we're both 18.

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  • CaresseisFabulous

    DUDE!! Thats your niece...if you wouldnt do it in front of her parents then its not ok stop spoooning your niece before u go to jail n get spooned by bubba!

    Gross!

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  • tieweird

    OK u have to be smooth. start out friendly and see if she acts interested in u. than ask her out.

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  • Blade

    ok the question here is this: how do i turn an on going friendship into a relationship??

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  • Princess280

    Just talk to a girl. A girl will not be comfortable knowing your uncomfortable because it will be too awkward. If you just have a normal conversation and manage to form a friendship, then you can see if you want to progress the friendship into something more

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  • theanswerisprobablynotnormal

    Okay, I'm a girl and for most girls there is no trick to talking to us. Insecure guys are usually hard to come by, and that's sort of attractive! I mean most guys are showoffs and dickfaces that have to "prove" their manliness by doing stupid shit.

    so with talking all you have to do is get some balls! who cares if you end up being a fool? everyone does that the first few times!

    and the thing that "apathique" guy said is so true! coffee would be the best thing ever and i would be happy for weeks!

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  • ameschristopher12345342

    the intnet thats where i found my girl

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  • chunkybongo

    Buddy-O, you're just gonna have to grin and bear it. Girls DO bite, but you're gonna have to treat it like this: If you approach @4 chicks, you'll get bitten 3 times, but you'll get the goodies 1 time. 1 time is all you need, right?? I go out and approach girls all the time, and sometimes they're like, 'f**k you,' but sometimes they just love me to death...it's like baseball, dude. You go up to bat knowing you're gonna miss a couple of times...but you WILL hit the ball eventually regardless of striking out a few times; NOBODY strikes out forever. In the process you'll become comfortable with approaching attracttive women, the kind you really want, who are as plentiful as hopping toads in the spring rain...I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 19 either, but boy was it some gooood lovin'....you're 100%% normal dude!

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  • Powerfrog

    "Girls don't bite" not completely true. now, obviously confidence can't be forced on someone, for me, i was ready to flirt and be sexually active when i was 15, for others its not until there 20's this is completely normal but i advise you just get right in there and talk to the pretty girl that works behind the till, make her giggle, the next day when your going for some milk, do the same and build up a relationship, before you know it you will be a husband and a father of three wishing you had never decided to listen to me ^_^

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  • Apathique

    I'm 18 and haven't even been kissed. Count your blessings. =)

    But seriously, if you go up and ask out a girl 9 times out of 10 she'll be flattered. She may refuse, but it might not be because of you. It could be because she's not ready for a relationship, she doesn't want the stress, she's interested in someone else, etc. And you don't have to make conversation if you don't really know her. Just be like, hey, you're really sweet and/or cute. (Don't say hot, sometimes that can be an insult) Do you want to go grab some Starbucks with me? Or whatever. She'll probably say yes if she's not into anyone else. I'm serious though, sometimes something as simple as that can keep a girl on a high for weeks. XD

    But believe me, us girls feel the exact same way. Mostly though, we feel like it's the guy's job to do the asking, so we just worry about everything else. How we look, what we say, is he intersted or just be nice, etc. It's stressful. So, if you stammer, she will probably take it as a compliment because we know how those things go. =)

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  • RTLstuff

    i am 16 and i have never touched a girl sexualy and i dont feel i ill for years

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  • tgregg

    think about what intrest you in a girl look for that and when you see a girl say hi and start small talk if you can tell she likes talking with you ask for her number there are alot women who likes shy men

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  • aqbitogulonggulo

    hellow<<<<girls are so very friendly!!!!just talk them in the way you respect them,,,and hopefully you can be as one of their bf....

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  • LavellJohnson

    i say that normal all the way

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  • HalcyonHills

    If she's 15, shes not a kid, she knows what spooning is and she's leading you on. Hit it twice, once for me.

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  • MrSkinner

    This is just SO normal. First of all, she's not a child at all, don't be stupid people, since when a 15 year old girl is a kid? I think you guys don't remember when you had that age. If she's spooning with you it's because SHE LIKES to do so.

    Why don't you people just try to acquire some knowledge before calling someone a pedo or anything.
    On the other hand, it being normal doesn't mean it's legal, so don't do shit or you may go to jail.

    Just to have an idea, there's places where the age of consent is 13(Japan) or even less.

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    • Blade

      how is this related to my story?

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  • divineintent

    walk up and dance like michel jackson

    works for me

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  • cpg123

    just make simple talk like hey how are u then go on from there

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  • I dont think we can really help you we can tell you to get some confidence but your gonna have to get that yourself. We all have to learn to talk to girls its a part of life

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