Never had a girlfriend

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Okay, I'll speak my mind out here. And comparing to most cases of others, I began to think. Watching friends, holding hands with girls, what's it like? I know I do want to experience it, I want to embrace a girl. The problem is, I never have the courage to talk to a chick who is not related to me. Even if it's business, I get all shaky and stuff. =/ Or if it's my classmate, I dunno why...

I'm at the age of 20, seeing all my siblings getting married, and it's kind of a pressure on me. "I want to be like them... But will I ever find someone? Probably not." That's an automatic thought that comes up everytime. I know my other siblings had a bunch of girlfriends/boyfiends, except me. I have a bunch of friends who date, except me. I've come to realize this... even when I go to parties, I feel left out. No one wants me. I get these emotional phases, I get so damn lonely at times... I try my best to shove aside the fact; that I'll never marry.

I have had a number of hopeless crushes in HS, that was when I was fat, like hot air balloon fat. lol I believe I'm not so much anymore like that today though, I lost dozens of weight down to 205 lbs(5'11). I've doubted myself. I was fat throughout my life. I'm just getting worried... that I'll probably just shrug and live with it alone throughout my life. I respect women though, I want them to be happy at all times...

Anyway.. is this normal? And what's it like to be with a chick? :D

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  • purpla
    13 years ago

    What is the worst that could happen if you ask someone out? They say no? BFD. Just go up to a girl and talk to her about things that interest you. Eventually, one will bite. Not literally of course.

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  • KokoroComplex
    12 years ago

    I never had a boyfriend T_T, only hopeless crushes...

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    "I want to be like them." No desire will ruin your life more assuredly than this.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    14 years ago

    Not really. Thank you all though, I was just damn lonely at the time I wrote that. I'm just going to remain this way. I'm fine now. =]

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  • Laren1
    14 years ago

    I'm pretty much the same way, ever wondering, never actually getting the nerve up to find out. My view is something like maybe one day I'll find someone, and if I don't, then I'll use the spare time to help cure cancer or something.

    It's normal to be lonely.

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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    Good-looking people are in relationships. Ugly people are in relationships. One, because they can get anyone they want, the other because they're so desperate for affirmation that they'll take anyone they can get. In my honest experience, the only people I know who haven't ever been in a relationship have been average looking people. You don't want to settle for someone who's way beneath you, but you're out of the league of the people you really want. So you stay happily single. End of story.

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  • ThatCreepyWhiteGuy
    10 years ago

    i look like an old man, i used to be a hobo, i smell like shit, and somehow, i have a hot girlfriend. THANK YOU GOD!

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  • extreme_momma
    12 years ago

    just be yourself. if a chick likes you, then she'll accept you for you. if they don't, then she's not worth your time.

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  • Yaegs43
    13 years ago

    I was in the same situation as you. Now I like boys and got married to my bf last summer.

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  • sweetest_strawberry
    14 years ago

    i'd date you :)

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    • empty.heart
      12 years ago

      Me too :D

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  • kkkpornlover
    14 years ago

    YOU GOT HANDS!?!

    If yah know what i mean....

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  • Anywho
    14 years ago

    its definitely not the weight, I know plenty of pretty girls who are "chubby chasers"

    in my experience, the loneliest guys are shy, introverted, quiet...

    buy a book? educate yourself, don't feel left out, start a group conversation on a subject you're well versed in. If you still feeling left out with those people, maybe you are, find a new group

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  • Treyy
    14 years ago

    wat the FUCK

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  • abdul009
    14 years ago

    dude forget about not having a girl friend,everthing has its time just relax u would find one sooner or later.

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  • nownk4me
    14 years ago

    My friend (i say my friend as i was once like you.)

    I worked in a pub, someware social, and ended up with a girlfriend who I lost my V plates to and stayed with her for 5 months. She was my first girlfriend in 11 years.

    Get a job where you will be in front of loads of people, like a pub or night club, and you will see your confidence will grow every night till you end up getting drunk and taking a girl back to YOUR place (not your mums but a place you rent) tell her sweet nothing into her ear and make shore you "cleaned the pipes" before entering the love tunnel.

    Any problems or If this sounds too much of a long shot, the quick route is an escort (high end not who ever is at the street at the time).

    Happy breeding

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  • JustBeGlad
    14 years ago

    belive me man , like im speaking,never had a girlfriend,no chance ,i guess we gotta keep trying ,im 18 years old, where are you from?

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  • Avo77
    14 years ago

    Um it's nice but I regret doing it because there is both worse then getting heart broken, if you ever do just hold her hand it's better then a kiss I swear. I also don't mean to piss you off but have you tried playing an online game with a girl? Or talking to one over man that could help you could also work your way up to a call, I had this for a while where I couldn't look girls in the eye, but then I bumped into this funny very out going girl that made a lot of sex jokes she made me feel very at home as if she was a hot verison of my friends we even ended up playing video games to gather. But break up is a bitchand it's awkward when I see her working at the superstore.

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