Never had a boyfriend

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I have never had a boyfriend and I am starting college soon. I have also never been kissed. I find talking to boys extremely hard and whenever I come across a boy that is attractive I wither away in shyness and try to avoid him. I always feel like attractive guys are making fun of me and laughing at me. I feel like my sheltered upbringing hinders my social life and communication with people, which is why I am so socially awkward, especially with guys. It also prevented me from developing social skills that many teens have today. Not to mention that I was bullied and called ugly by many guys in middle/high school, so I don't have a lot of self-confidence.

Lately I have been feeling like I don't have a chance with anyone. I really, really want a boyfriend and I have been trying my hardest to be more outgoing with guys, but I just feel so intimidated my them, especially when they are in groups with their friends. Tons of teenage guys come to my job with their friends, and I always feel like they are laughing at me and making fun. Whenever I try to flirt, I just sound stupid and my face gets so red. I wish I could be like this beautiful, sexy skinny girls that could wear crop tops and have straight hair and find it so easy to talk to guys. I am not skinny, I am more of an in-between girl but I don't consider myself "fat" (I really fucking hate that word and I wish it didn't exist. It's just so demeaning and horrible) It's just so weird because I love my body, but I still find myself wishing I was skinny. But why does everyone in this world need to be a fucking broom?!? Whatever, beside the point...

I just feel like I am not taken seriously by others because of my innocence. I'm just so tired of it.

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KeddersPrincess

9 years ago

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- Tommythecat.
  
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JayBurgundy

9 years ago

I actually love "in-between" girls.

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- PurpleElephant
  
  9 years ago
  
  really? :)
  I actually love being in between because you aren't too skinny and you aren't too overweight either :P
  
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  - JayBurgundy
    
    9 years ago
    
    Yeah, in between girls have the best body type in my opinion ;)
    
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    - PurpleElephant
      
      9 years ago
      
      At least your a guy that sees that haha, most guys only want skinny supermodel girls ._.
      
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      - JayBurgundy
        
        9 years ago
        
        That's pretty cliché haha
        
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        PurpleElephant
        
        9 years ago
        
        I guess so haha XD
        
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worriedgirlhere

9 years ago

Your descriptions of your inner thoughts remind me of myself (quite a lot actually), so I can see where you're coming from. Haven't had a boyfriend and am also going off to college. I can barely talk to guys without feeling awkward as well.

But I've come to sort of a bit of a realization that: I don't need a boyfriend in my life. Especially one that is only looks and not much to compensate for it.

I've found that talking to a guy as a friend is much more relaxing and enjoyable than flirting with one (going either way). We're all people so we should all act like it, right? But don't worry, I've felt the same way for basically my entire life so don't feel like you're weird. Just make friends and don't hassle yourself with guys who aren't respectful to you in any way.

People will love you for you, not for who you aren't.

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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

9 years ago

Listen, if your not happy with yourself how do you expect to be happy with another person. A person who is a peace with themselves is a beautiful thing. You have the power to make yourself happy. You don't need a man, or a woman, or an umpa lumpa to complete you. Stand tall on your own and a companion will follow.

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- Tommythecat.
  
  9 years ago
  
  A person who is at peace with themselves is dead, or so uncomplex that they appear that way.
  
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  - GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    
    9 years ago
    
    Thats not true the Dalai Lama is very much alive.
    
    "A good motivation is what is needed: compassion without dogmatism, without complicated philosophy; just understanding that others are human brothers and sisters and respecting their human rights and dignities. That we humans can help each other is one of our unique human capacities." The 14th Dalai Lama
    
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    - Tommythecat.
      
      9 years ago
      
      He's all dead inside.
      
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PurpleElephant

9 years ago

you know what I will just kik u cuz I can't pm either xD

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- JayBurgundy
  
  8 years ago
  
  Are you still on this site?
  
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JayBurgundy

9 years ago

Wassup, you have any luck yet?

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- PurpleElephant
  
  9 years ago
  
  sadly, no :(
  
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  - JayBurgundy
    
    9 years ago
    
    Do you have a kik?
    
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    - PurpleElephant
      
      9 years ago
      
      yes I could pm u my username if u want :P
      
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      - JayBurgundy
        
        9 years ago
        
        I don't think I can pm, but you can try :)
        
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valium366

9 years ago

Im a guy but i relate to about 90% of what you just said. Ive always been socially isolated and feel as if my teenage years have been wasted cos while everyone was out having fun and partying and doing whatever, i was moving house every few months and never done anything that 'normal' teenagers were doing. I feel somehow inferior for it.
Reading what you wrote was just so relatable. So id say your not alone in how you feel. And as for the flirting thing, guys always sound like idiots when they flirt right? Why should you worry about how you come accross? Just have hope that youll find the right guy one day and hopefully you will. Sorry for the shit advice but its all i could think of :)

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- PurpleElephant
  
  9 years ago
  
  Yes! Exactly. While everyone was out partying I was locked up in my room on my laptop or watching movies while eating junkfood. I feel very inferior for it as well. I feel like I am not taken seriously because of it, and it's sad that society is like that nowadays. I personally feel like there is nothing wrong with the way we live our lives, it's just that society is so screwed up.
  I'm so glad I'm not alone. Haha yeah, I guess you're right lol. It's just that.. it's kinda cute when guys sound stupid, but when I sound stupid.. it's just painful to witness xD :) and No, it was not shit advice. It actually really helped me :)
  
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grumpycowpyjamas114

9 years ago

I think you just explained my life. I'm sending you virtual hugs.

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- PurpleElephant
  
  9 years ago
  
  *gives virtual hugs back* it's such a struggle, isn't it? :/
  
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    9 years ago
    
    Mmmmhmmm
    
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