Never had a babysitter for my child, ever iin?

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All through out my pregnancy I was very independant and did not ask for any help at all. My family & my husbands family are not baby people so to speak, and really are clueless/unfit to babysit in my opinion. they are all smokers and alchoholics and i am afraid that they would smoke around my daughter or expose her to that kind of stuff, ect ect. so my love and i have been pretty much raising our daughter on our own without any help.
i admit i am quite protective of my daughter i spose.
anyways, the reason why i am posting is because i wanted to know if this is normal...
My daughter is now 18 months old and i have literally NEVER had a babisitter. i have been with her since birth nonstop taking hourlong times away when i am showering ect. her father is with her when i am not. and vice versa.

my friend on the other hand, has had MANY many babysitters. almost to the point of being irresponsible.

i am beginning to wonder whats worse.. and if i am doing any damage to my daughter...

so is it normal to have never been away from my child, in her entire life?

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  • zxy
    13 years ago

    Dr phils says that when they get older they sometimes need a break from the mother for a night. But when they are infants your probably the best person to take care of them

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  • Elegy
    13 years ago

    You will hardlt find moms like you these days.No you are just responsible and caring person.I dont understand why to have kids if someone else will bring them up.Is it a duty?Be yourself,you are ok

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  • emcljo
    13 years ago

    I was about to write and tell you that I was the same - except I passed my baby over to be looked after at 8 weeks old when I went back to work - maternity leave is very short in my country. I was devastated but had to do it! But what I could not do was leave him with anyone else for my pleasure - when he was 10 months, my mum babysat him whilst he was sleeping so my husband and I could go out and celebrate my birthday but I just worried the whole time and we were only out for an hour! I have relaxed a little and we do use a babysitter but it is the same one every time and I have known her for 7 years and I trust her. Other people offer all the time but I would not let them anywhere near him. My son is 5. I think you are just looking after your precious baby and that you are the only person that can do that properly. You will decide when the time is right for you. You will eventually want to go out and you will find someone you can trust but I can completely and utterly understand how you feel. You are a perfectly normal mother.

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  • dianabananas
    13 years ago

    You are doing the complete opposite of harming her--u are loving her and nurturing her! I'm kinda the same way but she is 3 years old now and I'm a single mom so there are a few select ppl that watch my daughter only when it's necessary but never for purposes of going out to have fun without her. I agree, u brought her into this world--raise and enjoy her!

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