Nervous about seeing fiancee in mexico

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Ok, so my fiancee wants me to go to Mexico to visit her, but due to the increase in violence I feel nervous about going. She lives in a relatively safe part of Mexico City, but I still have my reservations. Then when I graduate college she wants me to live with her in Mexico for three months until she finishes her school (which is why she went back to Mexico to begin with). I've offered to pay for tickets for her to come here to the US many times, but she refuses because she says,"If I have to live in America the rest of my life with you, you need to live in Mexico a while". Is it normal for me not to want to go down there given the current situation down there, or am I overreacting?

P.S. I've visited Mexico already twice before for 3 weeks total, but this was a year ago before things got bad.

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  • misschelseaxo
    12 years ago

    I know alot of Mexican people here in Texas who refuse to travel over the border back into Mexico.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Apparently you people don't read the news or stay up to date on current events. Mexico, right now, is dealing with SERIOUS issues and the man that posted this has some very legitimate fears.
    Now for the user... My advice would be "don't go". Even IF you found a safe area you still wouldn't be at ease...and this could cause huge problems in the relationship. If it will just be a few months while she is finishing school then it would be selfish of her to insist you go to Mexico when it is something you legitimately fear. If she truly cares for you then she will want you safe AND happy and will be willing to wait to be reunited with you and not force her demands on you. If she insists that you make the move to Mexico while knowing your fears then I would rethink this marriage and perhaps slow things down.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    SWINEFLU!!!!

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  • aspgirl
    14 years ago

    I think you're overreacting a bit. Violence happens in every country in the world. It's something that people can't escape from. There's no reason why you wouldn't be as safe in Mexico as you are in your own country. If your fiancee is okay, then you should be too. Presuming that you'll be trailed by thugs and robbers is just pointless and causes unnecessary stress. You need to think positive. If you really care for your fiancee, you ought to be brave enough to spend some time with her in her homeland. There's always risks when we make choices throughout life, but the important thing is to confront your fears for the sake of those you care about. This is something you can do, if you put your mind to it.

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  • erocablok
    14 years ago

    Bro ive been down there and that shit is really hood.

    Find yourself an american woman because its safer and you be like I told you so.

    Mexicans that are military roll around with m-16's and they dont really like gringos.

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  • emolove
    14 years ago

    ur gonna get swine flu

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  • leakepeter
    14 years ago

    Dude thats kinda of a racist way of thinking just because its mexico if it was that bad your girl would have gotten raped or killed already, the violence is the same as in the usa where people get shot in drivebys and serial killers mutilate people i can tell you that you have to same risk there than anywhere else, if you dont believe me be narrow minded and dont travel no more be a non cultured person

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  • drdrayon
    15 years ago

    well if things get bad that fast you are totally overreacting because it would take a while for everyone running amock through mexico so it must be safe in the part she lives in just keep a close watch on things and you'll be fine.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Has everyone forgotten all the news stories pleading that people make other plans for spring break BESIDES anywhere in Mexico?! This included all of the popular resorts, tourist attractions, etc.
    Do some research peeps and find out why...THEN give an EDUCATED opinion.

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    • Lucadimontezemolo
      13 years ago

      A really Educated opinion would come from someone who has recently lived in Mexico not from someone who just watches the news that constantly exaggerate things, and aside from the North where there is an increase in violence (which is pretty much only between people involved in the Drug's business) the rest of Mexico is pretty much safe especially the touristic places and popular resorts.
      And there is not swine flu at all.

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