Needy manipulative friends?

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My boyfriend & I have a wonderful relationship. We get along great & respect each other. His friends (about 95%% are women) like me a lot & act like they seem to be very happy he & I are together but... they seem to be very needy of each other including my boyfriend. They are constantly texting each other about things to do & if one is at the local bar, they text each other to see if they can wrestle up someone to join them. I truly believe having friends is important & spending time away from your significant other is healthy but I think it excessive that they spend at least 2+ times a week together. And now that my boyfriend is moving in with me they are whinning that he's moving away. think they make him feel guilty. Mind you he is only moving a mile away! Don't get me wrong I think these people are good people but that I think they are very lonely & try to manipulate each other's time in order not to be alone. We are all over 35 years old. I'm afraid I am involved with a bunch of codependents. Is this normal for friends to be in touch every day & to see each other more than 2 times a week???

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Based on 32 votes (17 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    They are just threatened by the changes you are creating. Try to reassure them. But the fact is, you and your boyfriend are moving on in life and they are the ones that have to get used to it.

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago

    And I'm sorry, but I also don't think it's normal to be a textaholic after the age of 25. Just saying.

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago

    I'm sorry, but the big kicker here was you are all over 35?!?! That's pathetic! You should drop any dependency issues by the time you're 18! You're very cool to be okay with him hanging out together, BUT it is time to put a cap on that as he is now taken! Not available! If these galfriends of his like you then they will respect your privacy and should only hang out with you and him as a couple, not him alone. That just doesn't look right if you ask me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    2 times a week isn't so bad if everyone is single and don't have many hobbies.

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