Need you to de-code boy talk

After being heartbroken I went back into the dating app to try and take my mind off things , it was hard, I wasn’t interested but matched with a few people, one started speaking to me he was 26 and like me, liked outdoors and was a country lad and knew my profession. He quickly asked me out on a date but it never happened, I kept talking to him and got his snapchat. Again it just didn’t go anywhere infact I was too hung up on my ex checking his every move. A month passed and I got talking to Connor again, he wanted to meet but couldn’t for two weeks because of his holiday. He never seemed to be a good Texter.
When he got back we spoke again and he mentioned dinner on a monday(this was a Friday) all weekend he never mentioned anything to organise it and neither did I. The week after I asked him what happened to Monday and he said ‘I was thinking the same thing’ anyway we finally had our first date safe to say amazing, and a second date the week after. On the second date he organised a third to go to the Trafford centre a massive shopping centre over an hour away. In between dates he’d send snapchat of him working and so would I, and message at night asking how my day was. We went to the Trafford but before the Saturday I had to mention it on the Friday. Anyway we went and had an amazing date. Atthe end in the car he put his hand on my leg, and me being the stupid bitch I am didn’t react i nearly did then he took my hand away. He said ‘we will have to do something else next time’ he told me from the start he wasn’t looking for a fling, he’s also been working hard for a house, and he works from 6am until 8.30pm most days. And it’s manual work. On the last date he also said sometimes he feels like he should make more of an effort, his last relationship failed because of him working so much.
Anyway we kept speaking and I was somehow worrying he wasn’t into me because of the hand thing. So I didn’t message him just to see if he messaged me first and he did so I was happy again. The week after that he never mentioned meeting again, so on the Thursday I did I asked if he wanted to do something that weekend, he said ‘we could go for a walk or something it would be nice to just chill for the weekend’ I felt let down I told myself he wasn’t interested anyway we both ended up working so I couldn’t anyway. We kept talking but the next week (the week just passed) he seemed quiet, and I was worrying and my anxiety was driving me insane. He wasn’t messaging as much, he was messaging later. I put more effort in. On the Thursday I asked him ‘are you wanting to see me again sometime?’
His reply ‘yeah I do, I’m working this weekend, and everynight I get home from work all I want to do is sleep, when my house is sorted I should be able to cut my hours down and have more time’
My reply ‘I’m like is he interested or isn’t he sometimes, if you’re busy I get that and if you want to keep talking I can wait until you find time, but I just need to know where I stand’
His ‘it’s not that I’m not interested I wouldn’t have taken you to Trafford if I wasn’t, I don’t want to delete you or anything you aren’t like them other girls that are out all the time you have a head on you, I just don’t think I’ve picked the right time to start dating’
Me ‘ but if you really like someone you find time even if it’s just half an hour a week, I can come there it’s not problem, but if you aren’t interested I’d rather be told straight to be fair’
Him ‘ that’s exactly it I should be finding time but I’m not, I’ve had 3 amazing dates with you, I do like you, but I guess I’m not interested sorry’

I GUESS . Why go from yeah I want to see you to I guess I’m not interested. I personally feel he’s not got time to date.... but then if he liked me he would? But he does work a lot. I hate the fact he may not have liked me. Do I message him back? Or do I leave him? Hopefully he’ll realise what he’s lost ? Or let him think? Or should I message ? What does that even mean.
I know he likes me the way he looks at me and smiles. Is it my fault? He’s always been flaky but I do like him. What’s the best way to get him back?
My friend says he was never interested. While another says he just doesn’t have time to commit to dating properly.
So I don’t know what to do. I do really like him. Really like him.
I still have him on snapchat and Facebook and the whole ‘I don’t want to delete you’ baffles me. So I could snap chat him when I send one to all my friends? Or should I leave it now and let him come to me? I feel it’s my fault because of the hand thing but surely after 3 dates that’s not enough to put him off?’