Need legal advice on cyber sex

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So i'm looking for some legitimate legal advice on a "cyber sex" scenario.
My best friend and his girlfriend have been dating for 6 months. He is 19 and she is 15 1/2. Recently he came to me worried because they both exchanged sexually explicit messages via cellphone/facebook. He's been very sketched out and is worried that his/her parents might find out about these messages and turn them over to authorities. (both parents are aware of their relationship though). We've both been researching this sort of thing but haven't found anything related to his particular case. technicalities and such.

Both of them are sexually inactive and have made it clear to eachother and their parents that they would not engage in any physical sexual activity until the girl is 18. There is evidence of them discussing and agreeing on the matter in many of their chats. Non of their messages contained photos or videos of any kind. Text only. And he was not coercing her into meeting up for any sexual contact of any kind. These messages were simply fantasies of each other. (I know they are weird. god love em)

So does my bud have anything to worry about? He's not a predator trolling the internet for underage sex. He's very genuine and caring. both of them seem very happy together. Just not sure how authorities would look at this case and what could happen if they did. I'd hate to see him get into trouble with the law when she's only 6 months from being legal haha.

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  • anti-hero
    9 years ago

    Your "friend" eh?

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    9 years ago

    Delete everything you can don't do it again or mention it again and hope it falls into the black pit of the internet forever.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    The supposed fact that he's harmless means piss all to the authorities. I can assure you of this at least if he is a resident of the U.S.

    A good rule of thumb regarding internet use is to never assume anything is truly private. Ever. Rather, assume you're always being watched by someone - if only by overpaid cunts in suits with nothing better to do than spy on you "for the greater good."

    Never underestimate the American government's capacity to demolish lives under the guise of "protecting the children." Now just what, you ask, would they be protecting her (technically much more of a woman than a child anyway) from in this case? Nothing really, from what I can gather. But this is Big Brother we're talking about; I think most would agree that their motives NEVER seemed to make a great deal of sense.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    It's silly. He's 19 and she's 15.5 ( In Sweden she'd be legal) They are about the same age anyway and I think that as long as she doesn't get a reason to be pissed at him and tell someone about this he's fine.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I find it very silly too. I'm not aware of the laws for these things outside of the states but the varying perspectives by the legal system on this matter in the US is actually appalling. You would think that for something that they punish so severely, there would be a uniform consensus on the parameters of this sort of thing. But in one state it's perfectly legal and just next door in another state you could face years of jail and fines.

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago

        Exactly. I mean a fifteen year old and a nineteen year old is entirely different to a thirty year old and a fifteen year old ...

        I personally find the US a bit ...weird when it comes to that. I've heard that more states allow you to fuck your horse than to marry someone of the same sex (Not sure if this is true though)

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Both you and your friend are forgetting about NSA's Prism Program. It monitors online usage as well as phone communication/records.

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  • Boylan'sbirchbeer
    9 years ago

    My best friend and his girlfriend have been dating for 6 months. He is 19 and she is 15 1/2. (age difference is not too weird) Recently he came to me worried because they both exchanged sexually explicit messages via cellphone/facebook. (A message in and of itself is not illegal, as long as you are not asking for anything illegal. As long as both parties involved are being honest, nothing is wrong)

    Both of them are sexually inactive and have made it clear to each other and their parents that they would not engage in any physical sexual activity until the girl is 18. (good. Do they know each other outside of internet? IF not, there might be problems there. If so, really good) There is evidence of them discussing and agreeing on the matter in many of their chats. Non of their messages contained photos or videos of any kind. Text only. (good) And he was not coercing her into meeting up for any sexual contact of any kind. These messages were simply fantasies of each other. (perfectly fine)

    Everything sounds okay. Some illegal things to watch out for is:
    Child pornography. Absolutely no photographs of her naked.
    Meeting for sex (watch out for age of consent, etc.)
    Pretending to be someone they are not (lying about age, gender, etc.)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah they met each other in person and get together often to hang out (they are in a long distance relationship).

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  • Couman
    9 years ago

    Based on the news reports I see, my impression is that people who get in real legal trouble have almost always gone further than this, sending explicit pics (either way) or making plans to meet for sex. Still, it would obviously be wiser to back off a bit. Time is on thier side, after all.

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