Need kid to move out - part 2

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Thanks for all the comments on my previous poll. Basically, my friends are parents who want ungrateful, do nothing, unpleasant 22 year old kid to move out and get on his own. He has a job, but doesn't contribute a dime and spends lots of money on partying and other stuff for himself. He refuses to move out.

They appreciate the previous comments about family unity and that kids should be able to stay at home indefinitely. But their kid is not pleasant, lazy and taking advantage of them. Plus, they are ready to have the house to themselves.

Here is their plan. They are moving him out of the basement, which he took over, and back into a bedroom. He has to pay $300 rent and pay a portion of the grocery, utilities and other bills. He will also have a list of chores to do. If he doesn't pay his fair share, do chores, or be nice, they cut off his Internet, take away things they've bought him, stop doing favors for him, remove the door to his bedroom, and a few other things. And he'll be put on eviction notice. Either way, the deal lasts 18 months, then he's out. If he restarts college full-time and maintains at least a 3.0 GPA, they will allow him to stay until graduation.

There's more, but this is getting too long. What are your thoughts?

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    if he wasn't so unpleasant to be around and was more mature and helpful around the house I would say make him bank the 300 or bank the 300 a month yourself for school . I would say keep the 300 and communicate with him where you can come to an understanding of what needs to be done and what are the rules in the home . When he completes school successfully .. pay towards the schooling debt with all the rent money saved . I know this will sound too kind on my part but I feel like it's a nice gift a parent can give to their child ...although he must earn this I totally agree . It is their business and their choice this is just one opinion and maybe I am off base with it .. just trying to help .

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  • VinnyB
    8 years ago

    My thought is that it is no ones business outside of that house and what every they mutually agree on is their business.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Mutually?? Yeah right. This kid has not lived up to any of the agreements related to this issue that he's made so far. So the parents are forced to do the right thing unilaterally.

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      • VinnyB
        8 years ago

        I really don't see what that has to do with what I said. Since I said mutually agreed, then something not mutually agreed doesn't really fall under what I am saying does it?

        In you post you listed a possible agreement that has been proposed. I am saying that my opinions of the merits of that agreement are irrelevant. All that matters is that everyone involved in such an agreement are happy with it. If members of the house hold are not happy, or not adhering, then obviously that is a completely seperate issue from the question you asked in your post. It should also be obvious that my answer applies specifically to the question you did ask.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Ah, VinnyB, you're the one who made the rude and useless comment on my first post. This site is to share what is normally private business anonymously and ask for other's thoughts and opinions. If you have that stick wedged too far up your butt to do that then go away.

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      • VinnyB
        8 years ago

        "...and ask for other's thoughts and opinions."

        I agree with you 100%, which is why I offered my thoughts and opinions. My opinion is that anything a family decides together that is not hurtfil or illegal about their living arrangements is their own business and fine for them.

        You don't have to agree with my opinion, you're welcome to your own. But as you said you asked, and I gave it. I don't understand how giving you an opinion you asked for is rude. I don't understand how me thinking the family has a right to do whatever they wish is rude. But whatever it was that you took as such, I am sorry you felt that way about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    This sounds like a good plan in my opinion. I hope it works out for all of them.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    The school thing makes sense, but the rest doesn't. If 'they are ready to have the house to themselves' then why not just send him packing? I don't understand why they want this kid, who is not pleasant, lazy and taking advantage of them, upstairs living more closely with them.
    They are obviously setting him up to fail, but why go through the ugly scenes that will result when he does?
    I'd just tell the kid he has 30 days, up front, plain and simple.

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      Because they are giving him one final chance and trying to impress upon him the seriousness of the situation. Having him living upstairs and paying rent and having other responsibilities is treating him like an adult.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        A responsible adult would have moved out long ago.

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        • [Old Memory]
          8 years ago

          Not at 22. Not with how much it costs this day and age.

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          • thegypsysailor
            8 years ago

            It doesn't cost any more today when you consider an adult wage in 1964 was $105.00 a week and an apartment was around $90.00.
            The OP called this child/adult "ungrateful, do nothing, unpleasant 22 year old kid". Is that someone you really think shouldn't be thrown out to learn a bit about life? I don't get you here; it's not like this is some really nice college kid that's a pleasure to be around.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              They would like to just throw him out! But they also don't want him living on the street or moving in with someone that's a bad influence just because he needs a place to sleep. So, they would probably agree with elements of both of your and djpattie's thoughts on this.

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  • Terrik1337
    7 years ago

    Is he going to college? My parents were able to support me until I got a bachelors of science degree and moved out on my own. I have been told I am a very pleasant person and always did my share of chores though, so that can make a difference.

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  • MangoTango
    8 years ago

    Again, why do people have kids in the first place? I really don't understand.

    This plan is entirely reasonable. Its more than reasonable. He seems like he's just taking advantage of them. I guess he has no idea that everything kind of costs money. So stupid.

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  • JD777
    8 years ago

    Seems like a fair plan. But since he refuses to move out, how are you going to get him out if he doesn't live up to the deal and you "evict" him, or at the end of the 18 months?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      It's a friend's kid, not mine, but they already have this planned out like a SWAT operation! They will get one of those corporate temporary housing suites with a kitchenette and prepay it for 2 months to give him time to find a place. Then when he leaves for work, they plan to move his essential belongings into the suite and have the locks and security codes changed at their house before he gets off work. The Mom said she'd leave some cash and groceries/supplies at the suite, too. And they'll tell the kid if he trashes the suite and doesn't pay them for damages, they plan to sue him and get a garnishment order. And when the lease is up, he will have no tenant rights, so the suite management will get him out right away. Another friend of ours is an attorney and thought this plan was ingenious, and hilarious! He knows what a troll this kid is.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I forgot one of the best parts, they plan to sell the new jet ski they bought him last year to more than cover their costs for the suite, locks, etc.

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