Name one way you want to be like your parent and one way you dont

Since they're both very, very DEAD, I can't think of any way I'd like to be like them.

I don't want to have any kids like my mother.

I don't want to be like either of my parents. They're both dead! I would like to have wonderful children like some of theirs are. In fact I do have wonderful children. I love them and they love me!

I've already made good progress on a lot of things I wanted or didnt want to emulate from my parents but nonetheless:

want: dad's great hygiene and healthy eating habits, courage to admit fault and be upfront, ability to maintain very old friendships
dont want: his substance addictions, his anger, some of his old fashioned thinking, and mum's imperviousness to reason.

I want to be helpful and generous like mommy but not backward and scared of life.
My dad was ambitious but I didn't get none of dat... I'm glad I'm not cheap like my dad I hate cheap people.

I would like to be financially stable, and dare I say somewhat affluent. I would also love to spend the rest of my life with my soul mate, but I've made two many damn poor judgments so I'm afraid of making mistake number three. It's better to learn to enjoy being alone.

Want to have a car
Don't want to make a human and fill it with my neuroses

My mom has tons of self esteem. I'm getting there. I don't want my dad's hypocritical ways.

From my mom I want her ability to not take shit from others. What I don't want is her jealous, possessive, and grouchy nature toward loved ones.

From my dad I want his ability to not give a shit. What I don't want is his jealous nature.

I can't do "parents" as a whole as my mother and father are polar opposites.

But I'd probably want to be nothing like my mother and everything like my dad.

I want to be more compassionate like my mom, but I also don't want to worry as much as she does.