Naive & stupid to throw away the most meaningful thing in your life?

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This is a hypothetical scenario, but I want to know what people think

A man finds the woman of his dreams, the love of his life- you get the jist. Out of all the women he has ever dated he has never felt this way for any of them. He's truly in love with her and let's say there was a way to see the future that he never will feel this way again. He is happy in a relationship with her.

One day he does something will risks killing the relationship forever. It doesn't matter what he did, whether he ate her last cookie or cheated on her or never told her he's an alien. Ignore the what. I know it's hard. But what matters is that telling her this ONE fact WILL end the relationship. Let's say he knows it will end if he tells her, but he tells her the truth anyway and the relationship, expectedly, ends.

Would you consider him naive and stupid to throw away the most meaningful thing in his life?

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    It's funny, were the roles reversed I can guarantee you that cookie would have disappeared or that cheating would have occurred without any notice and without any personal accountability.

    The man in this example should accept his faults, particularly the one that ended his relationship—his conscience.

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  • yfhudsk
    7 years ago

    How is this even a question? If you choose to tell someone a fact that will end a relationship you're not naive you're just stupid. It's like telling people you're a spy. If they will never have found out, you're more than a fool to reveal whatever it is.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Interesting. Out of the handful of people I've asked so far you are the first to say it would be stupid.

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      • fluffy1uv
        7 years ago

        The reasons it isn't just not stupid to do, but what you NEED to do is that whatever it is, if it's as big a deal as you say, she WILL find out and when she does the betrayal of you effectively lying to her for an extended period of time will be the worst thing. Even if it is as bad as cheating on her, there is STILL a chance IF you are truthful. Trust can still be retained if you are man enough to fess up and gave the consequences.

        Besides that, would you really want to live the rest of this relationship out while just lying to her every day? I sincerely hope not.

        There is a chance it will be over, but then at least you can have a chance of having a truthful relationship with someone else. She may be the love of your life right now, but you will find someone else eventually. Statistically it makes no sense that she would be the only one you're perfectly compatible with out there.

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      • yfhudsk
        7 years ago

        What were the other reasons given to you?

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