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I have a 12 year old daughter who always tear up her school or regular clothes. She is either cutting them or tear them up. She is too big for that. What can I do about it because I do not have money to throw away like that. She tears everything that comes her way. I am furious. Is this normal?
Tell her that if she continues to do it, she'll be going to school in her birthday suit.
Sounds like there's something bothering her, and it also sounds somewhat violent. Have you asked her why she does this?
she sounds like she is tearing things up to make a point. as a parent, you cannot get frustrated. she is saying something to the world that she is afraid to vocalize to you. it will come in time. you need to make sure that she is not being abused. becuase sometimes ripping things up is a representation of how the person's spirit feels inside. ASK HER if there is anyone that has been bothering her. keep an eye out for anything out of the ordinary that may have happened to her. and on a side note, if she is not being abused, then please do not be naive about one person's desire to express theirself, as i'm sure you went thru a similar stage when you were younger even if you dont want to admit it. hope this helps. and whatever you do DO NOT BE JUDGEMENTAL. this is the worse thing a parent can do.
It sounds like there's something she's unhappy about. I'd talk to her if I were you. If nothing else works, take her to a therapist.
Ever heard of corporal punishment? If your kid grows up to be a brat there are so many ways to set her straight.
Does she still do this because if so make her wear what she had torn to school the next time she does this, don't send her to school in her birthday suit because the schools just going to send her home if you do but making her wear what she tore up is perfect. Good Luck
don't buy her anything, she'll have to go around with ripped up clothes until she doesnt do it anymore
maybe it's time to try the "kick them out of the garden of eden" approach by family psychologist John Rosemond
http://www.herald-dispatch.com/life/x809657898/Taking-child-out-of-Garden-of-Eden-will-stop-tantrums
Granted this was written for a 4 year old child but it's something to consider.
If I did that my mom would get so mad! My mom only gets 1500 a month because my dad died of a heart attack when I was 5 we don't go shopping a lot but you should bring your daughter to the doctor to see if she has something
Yes I asks her why and her response is nothing she just does it and she cannot help it. It is nothing devilish or nothing like that if that is what you are saying
Simple: Buy her some new clothes, and tell her that you're not buying her any more after that until next year or until she has a growth spurt, whichever comes first.
She can't appreciate what she has if she knows that she can just ring a little bell and have it replaced for her. It'll be hard, but she has to learn that lesson and if she wants new clothes, make her do chores to earn them. It's easy to destroy something that you didn't have to work for, and I don't mean chores like sweeping the floor, I mean, hands and knees scrubbing the floor.
I'd encourage you to seek psychiatric help for her, but don't exactly feel sorry for her. This is a great opportunity to teach her about the value of money and possessions and the importance in taking care of your stuff.
My sister had the same damned problem at that age, and after a few months of going to school looking like a damned rag doll because she couldn't wear half her pants, she decided that she wasn't going to rip her clothes up anymore. You're the parent, you're in charge.
Thanks for your opinion, I know for a fact she is not being abuse because I am a single parent and I do not abuse her and she do not go anywhere alone. She also crawl on the floor all the times . I tells her that 12 years old do not crawl on the floor like a baby. She tells me she cannot help it.