My teenage daughter is having a lesbian relationship with older girl

She is learning who she is and what she is. Support her or she will turn away from you.

Explain to her that it's dangerous dating older people as they can make you think you want things you don't...go through all the std dangers etc and different types of abuse (which you probably have just refresh) but tell her you love her and it's ok to experiment and that she doesn't need to make her mind up or put a label on herself and no matter what you are here for her and always will be.chances are,it will be over in a few months and she will grow stronger with you if you support her.the last thing you want is her feeling she can't talk to you about these things so just tell her your worried but that it's her choice and you support her.even if it doesn't fizzle out

What would you do if your 14 yo daughter said she was having a physical relationship with a 17 yo boy because they were in love? Being a lesbian make it no less illegal for underage sex. And according to the law, what they are doing is illegal.

She is perfectly old enough to know she is a lesbian saying otherwise is the worst thing you can do. Just let her enjoy some teenage romance she only a few years older. When you were her age you knew you were straight so why do you think shes so young.

Allow her to continue provided they suck and fuck you too.

My daughter talked about it to her Mum, who I've split with, and her mum told me. I know this will sound crude and I don't even want to think about it, let alone mention it even to my wife but I'm worried about this older girl using sex toys or something and i don't want to seem a total dinosaur, but I worry that she could end up physically hurt if she was encouraged to try something like that, shes only a petite 14.

It tends to be a phase for some people - not all. Once the other party turns 18 and if the two are still being physical, you can report her to the police if you want to. Up to you.

Join the two of them for a threesome. Show them how to suck and fuck.

The only thing i find off is that she doesnt want u to meet her. I mean she's only 14, u should know who she's hanging around with. Especially if they're older

She might know her sexuality perfectly well. She might also be exploring. The lesbian part isn't really the biggest problem. She's getting into sex and also, age differences mean a lot at that age. You might not be able to stop her, but then make sure that she at least has the knowledge to make a good choice for herself. She might still make the wrong choice, young people sometimes do.

I never said that good parenting doesn't matter... but who are you to come on her and brag to this upset heartbroken worried parent that your kids won't do this because you taught them right?? For one how do you know that they haven't had lots of chats with their child about things like this. And for two you could drill your kid every day about things. Still doesn't mean that they aren't going to go out and still make a bad decision...it's called growing up and learning..a big part of that is from mistakes. You do not go to people in need and brag... that is just low and no use to anyone

What a jerk,get of your high horse and stop judging. This could happen to any teen regardless of what their parents have drilled into them.

Although, it is illegal.most kids are doing stuff. you can't protect her from it(dreading these upcoming years with mine) she's going to do it wether you say yes or no. I I guess least with a girl she can't get pregnant. I'd maybe make sure she's spending lots of time with her friends her age,arrange sleepovers at yours for them or suggest dates like bowling ice skating etc,make her too busy to see this girl but tactfully

Legal wise you could call the cops but thats a good start to some rough teens and beyond with your kid. Wouldnt go that route

I would contact the police or try to break it up. At that age, a few years really is a big difference and it isn't right for an older girl to exploit her like that. As for being a lesbian, fine, as long as she sticks to dating girls her own age.