My "straight friend" acts very off.

So lets put it like this, I don't consider myself truly any sexual orientation. I just like randoms from each but I guess that can be Bisexual. Anyway there is this guy I went to school with and he was in my close group of friends and of course as with all small towns he acted very straight, overly sometimes but only I ever seen it. So here is what has lead me here for other people's opinions. When we first met, he was very very shy and then once he got to know me he became my new best friend (replacing a 12 year old one) and I his. I slept at his house all the time, most of the time I passed out on his bed (so he could take the feezing floor) anyway one time he said he wanted to crawl in with me. 2 weeks after meeting him (going back in time) was at a small party and it was me him, and this chick and eventually all three of us had feet tangelled. I was going for her at this point, but his legs were caressing mine. Now months and months later after just normaly straight stuff. I wanted to stretch out on the couch and he was at the end so I had my legs bent and it looked and was uncomfortable. He picked up my legs and layed them across his lap (where I am from this is not done, ever ever ever) we stayed like that in full view of 3 other straight friends for 2 hours until it came up in conversation. WE texted eachother everyday for 4 months and then one time with the assistance of alcohol he massaged my feet (no foot fetish way) I was in the fron pass seat of my buddies SUV (another friend i mean) and two more (the guy in question too) in the back and I was sitting backwards to talk to them and for 45 mins he like full on massaged them and sort of kind of went up the leg to the shins, as far as he could go without being caught. I dont talk to him anymore (not from any of this but another friend has sort of created a hate circle) and to retain popularity he has stayed there. Anyway, what does this mean? I mean he will text me if I text him but will not talk to me unless I make the effort. Oh he comes from a strict but nonreligious family, his dad would kill him for just the stuff I mentioned. So I can't figure this out. What are your guys/girls thoughts?

Thanks!!!!

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  • OptimistPrime

    Looking at these replies is a buffet of repressed homosexuality. "That's gay!" Yeah, takes one to know one, doesn't it?

    The only real answer is that you have to talk to your friend. Be open and honest, because it doesn't sound like you have much to lose anyway thanks to this "circle of hate" going on. If you have some mutual connection with this guy, great. If you don't, maybe you can continue to just be friends. Also, if he's just curious and/or horny, you need to remember that it could be just a one-time thing or it could screw up the whole friendship. Good luck.

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  • spyderr

    paragraphs are your friend

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  • theusedfan

    wrong people to ask... anyway, id think hes either straight & very secure with his sexuality, or hes gay. pick whichever you prefer =P

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  • 112o0

    my gay friend acts very off [as in straight], like pervish so i stopped talking and hanging out with him

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  • canadian6969

    Cabinet70 - In truth you are not the first person to say that, not that I ever mentioned this before but people noticed that this guy I mentioned in the post and another just seemed to fit the bill of completely closeted homo's. OH and by replacing a 12 year old friend I meant a friend that has been my friend for 12 years. I should have typed that better ahaha

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  • thebone12

    you are gay blow your buddy

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  • Eladnelg

    Let him fuck you next time fag ou oviously want it

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  • Myghoul2099

    thats REALLY fuckin gay.

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  • maybe he is or at least probably curious about being gay

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  • LuffySp

    Seems to me like you're attracted. If he's worried about his family. Just TALK to him. If he likes you, he will tell you. If not, then you can move on. Don't stress over it forever. Just ask.

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  • coolperson23

    its either hes a bisexual or just straight GAY so i think its not normal thats what girlfriends do to their boyfriends.But i think u should still be his just not his best friend just talk to him but dont hang out with him if u dont feel comftorble

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  • nothing2

    in those small towns they sometimes beat the kids for anything sexual.

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  • Is the question why he has pulled back from you? Ask him if you want to know. The physical boundaries between you two were a bit blurry & confusing as to what was going on. My guess is he has become uncomfortable with you.

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  • jellokatt

    he's curious..... he might be bi, or gay, but he's definitely curious.... and probably very confused and afraid of the consequences if people found out

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  • izitblud

    it all depends how traditional your views are. is that really gay these days or are you just exaggerating in your head? why not just ask him if he's gay anyway?

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  • canadian6969

    * do not

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  • I think your friend is gay, and I believe that you are not so sure what your sexuality is just yet. I do believe that you are a homosexual after reading your story and feel that you just need to accept that fact and realize that sooner or later the right man will come along for you.

    I look at these thoughts your having as puppie love the only difference is it is between two males instead of a male and a female. Just try to come to grips with your true sexuality and when you discover that things will work out for you.

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    • canadian6969

      I wouldn't classify it as puppy love though, just my observations. I don't recall ever mentioning in the post I had any attraction to him. I merely stated what he had done, and what I had allowed. I also believe that I do have to find any one type of sexuality for things to work out for me. When something works well for me I usually stick with it.

      Though I do appreciate your response for your matter of fact response to my questionable friend, and also for your insights on my own tastes.

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  • He tried to get onto you sand you didnt take it any further now hes probably got a BF in the hate circle and your not in the hate circle

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  • Quests

    do not eat the cockmeat sandwich

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  • if he put his legs on you, that makes you gay

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    • canadian6969

      But he put mine on top of his

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      • that's really gay

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        • WarLord

          I agree. That's really, REALLY gay.

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          • pidgeonshaveAIDz45

            yes. extremely gay. if i were you i would have immediately put my legs back down. that doesnt fly here.

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