My son's friend started dating his ex, i am so angry.

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My son had a serious relationship for about 2 years. It ended about a year ago. He fell into a deep depression (very bad) I quit my work to be with him. He spent a quarter in a hospital homebound program. Later we registered him to go to another school.(could not function) He was starting to get better and enjoy life. Now, his good buddy since 4th grade, has started to date this girl. the boy is convincing the entire circle of friends that everything is cool because the bro-code has a deadline. His buddy is asking him questions about her, and even asked if he had nude pics. I am so angry at this boy!! I know my son is hurt, but he is also afraid of losing his friends. The whole network of friends are nerds.

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  • thefuckup
    8 years ago

    Your son took a break up at this age so hard? Jesus Christ woman act like a mother to this child and dont let him get fucked up more.

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  • VirgilManly
    8 years ago

    That so-called friend is no friend at all. If I were your son I'd tell him to go fuck himself.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Tell him to get new friends. Simple.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    You need to show your kid that most people do not finish with the first person they love. He'll find someone more worth his time and love but it will take time. Until then, show him that he should focus on things he can control like his own progression in life.

    I will say this. Friends being with friend's ex is just ridiculous. I could not ever bring myself to do that and it's a massive betrayal of the bro-code, as silly as the title is. You never get with your friend's ex unless your friend condones it, male or female.

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    • 1penguin
      8 years ago

      Thank u

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    8 years ago

    if yalls boy beats the livin fuck outta his friend then all will be forgiven and equal

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    • 1penguin
      8 years ago

      Lol thats whst the boys parents said he should do.

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  • dinz
    8 years ago

    Reacting like this is sending the wrong message to your son. You must realise most of us will experience some form of break up and it is all about learning from them and coping with them.

    My suggestion is to not worry about the girl or his friend but worry about your son. You must show him that this is a totally normal situation.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    How old is your son? And how is HE feeling about this?

    You're not setting him a good example of the fact that there are many things in the world we can't control, including who other people get involved with. You have no right to be angry about this: maybe a bit apprehensive and definitely watchful of your son's state of mind without being intrusive, but what use is anger in this situation?

    You seem to be assuming that this new development will dump him back into depression again: I hope you're not conveying this fear to him or you'll have a self-fulfilling prophecy to deal with.

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    • 1penguin
      8 years ago

      He was 17 now 18..they were so intensley in love. If i had a do over i wish i would havent let him see so much of her when he was younger. He quit boyscouts and his church to be with her more. I havent shown him im angry, but im sure it comes through. I am afraid of a set back and you are so right i dont want it to happen because im afraid it will. Maybe i do gotta deconnect some.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        It would be good if you could detach a bit, you do sound a bit controlling to me: for example, what right would you have had to try and stop him spending time with someone he was so intensely in love with?

        I reckon it would be better for both of you if you let go a bit, especially let go of that anger, it's doing no-one any good at all

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