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My son is 7 years old and acting really violent, he would hit his other brothers and broke one of their fingers, I feel like I failed as a mother, I don't know how to diciplin him I tried everything, I can't even properly communicate with them since I have a heavy accent. What should I do to make him stop his bad behavior?
I think gypsy hit the nail on the head.
Talk to his teachers and guidance counselor about this. Schools don't always like to put money into more staffing so bigger classroom sizes make it easier for kids to get away with things. Whenever I'm given this kind of situation to handle by the parents, it's too easy to go CIA on these kids without them suspecting it. Remember that sometimes students act way differently at school than they do at home.
I'd also look into him seeing a pediatric therapist. You'd be surprised how easily kids will open up about their issues to the right people. Maybe there's something going on between him and his brothers that you don't know about. Ask the guidance counselor if they can help you get a hold of resources that can help your family. You'd be surprised the kind of state programs that exist out there for families that you would not have even thought to ask about.
A little bit of bullying among siblings is normal, but not to this degree. To be safe, I'd take to a medical professional to checked out. This could be very serious.
He's mentally unstable. This requires more then just discipline. Others have posted some pretty good advice on this page, so I'll take my leave.
Send him to the mental ward at your local hospital. That should do the trick.
This isn't about manners, it's about violence and I don't get your reference to your accent: surely he's grown up with it can understand you OK?
This kid has to be desperately unhappy to be behaving like this, so get him some help from a therapist ASAP
You need to get him to counseling. It will only get worse. Has there been a divorce?
First you might want to find out what has caused this change in him. Has something triggered this behavior, which I assume has begun only recently?
It wasn't very recent, it happened since the last 8 months or so? I don't know why he changed but he was always naughty, he is very stressed from school and keeps screaming in the mornings, maybe it's school?
Then it's possible he's being bullied at school so when he comes home he takes out his anger and frustration on his siblings?
I'd talk to someone at the school and try to figure this out.
I think normal forms of punishment will exacerbate this problem, not help. If you can't get anywhere on your own, you are going to need professional help. It just doesn't sound like a phase he's going to grow out of.