My sisters boyfriend always bags me out and puts me on show.

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Ok, So me and my sister have been best friends ever since we were young. We are inseperable and all. But we both have different personalities, Im the straight-forward and i dont take shit from anyone, and she is a soft hearted and easy to break down kind of person who will fall for anything someone tells her. She met this guy about 5 months ago and ever since she hasnt been the same. She is always on the phone to him, or texting him or with him. She never hangs out with me anymore and if she does she doesn't let me speak to any guys if we are out having dinner or whatever, juust because she is paranoid if her boyfriend sees ME talking to guys. He always starts fights with her about pathetic things and all she does is throw herself at him asif she is worthless. She even told him that she will not go out with me anymore and just stay at home and only go out with him if that makes him happy. IS she serious? He was also bagging me out to her i overheard the conversation that he doesnt like the way i dress. Its none of his business what clothes i decide to wear or whatever. And for my sister to be throwing me in the trash and going ahead with whatever this guy says is really making me sad. I am not talking to her now we had a fight and i told her i couldnt believe she was actually agreeing to what he was saying. What should i do.? Im really angry and upset. She is 21 and i am 20. Its to the point where i dont want anything to do with her anymore.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    He is no good for her. He is brainwashing her and taking advantage of her

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  • Weirdguypants
    13 years ago

    Most people kind of disappear when they get into relationships. I've had a lot of friends that just aren't around when they aren't single. However, your sister's boyfriend sounds a bit over the top with everything. It sounds like she's head-over-heels in love with him, which means she probably won't be able to examine the situation and evaluate your advice effectively. From my past experiences with this kind of thing, there really isn't much you can do except to stick by her.

    Show her that you still love her, even if you don't like her boyfriend. Voice your opinions of him if you must, but this will likely just push her away further. I would say something like... "I really don't think your boyfriend is good for you, and I don't think you're going to be happy with him, but I don't want him to come between us" And leave it at that. Eventually something will happen and his spell over her will be broken! When that happens, she'll really need you to be there for her, even if you feel hurt now.

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  • aduusw
    13 years ago

    He's an asshole; you must be patient toward your sister until she sees him as he is... It may tAke time because she is in love

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  • shortstuff=D
    13 years ago

    Ummmmm seriously I would dump the bitch and her boyfriend excuse my language but that's not right :(

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  • Assisted
    12 years ago

    Tldr

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  • Mimi187
    13 years ago

    Thanks everyone for the comments.

    Since i posted that up, It was amazingly done that HE dumped her for no reason whatsoever. so i guess it all worked out in the end. She finally realised he wasnt worth her in the end.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    My 23 year old sister is doing this exact thing. It's terrible because I just want to shake her and tell her she's being a complete doormat, and I'm losing respect for her. It's hard to stay supportive of her, so we aren't speaking. I can't handle watching her make poor decisions.
    Just try not to fight with her. Be there, but if necessary love her from a distance.

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  • Mimi187
    13 years ago

    I spoke to her yesterday and sorted a bit out.. but i told her that i dont think she should see him anymore because she is blinded and cant see what i see... I just hope she listens to me.. she deserves so much better..

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