My sister will not stop speaking to a bad friend!

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My sister is 13 and she has this one friend who when she speaks about her, she sounds like the worst friend imaginable.
She tells my sister what she can and can't like.
For instance, my sister loaned a manga out of the school library and her friend demanded she return it because "manga is MY thing and only i can like it!!!"

Another thing that annoys me is her friend thinks that screaming, lashing out and threatening to hit people is ok and says "i have epilepsy i cant help it!!!!"

Not to mention she messaged my sister saying she was going to kill herself and if my sister didnt give her a reason to live it would be her fault. (Later turned out it was just because one of my sisters other friends had started watching something that once again, only she could like.)

Im really scared for my sister because she wont ditch this friend and with all the suicide threats and screaming and being told what she can and cant enjoy, im so scared its going to harm her mental health. Is it normal for her to not want to stop being friends with this girl???

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Your sister is in an emotionally abusive friendship (yeah, abuse can be in any type of relationship sadly).

    Right now, she is deep in that Stockholm Syndrome; which is why shouldn't lecture her, or tell her what she should do; she knows that already, but doesn't have the mental strength for it yet.

    What you can do is be your sister's bestfriend, because really she needs you. That "friend," of hers is tearing your sister down to the point she won't know how to make her own desicions; you need to give her a space to be herself and have a voice. Take interest in what she likes, surprise her with Manga you think she would like and read it with her, and so on. Show her what a real friend is.

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  • privatepropertykeepout
    7 years ago

    Just keep trying to help your sister, there may be something wrong with this friend.

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  • Cookiecutter
    7 years ago

    Shes young and still figuring out her identity which also means her friends. She will learn that this friend is bad for her but it may take time and right now shes not going to listen.

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