My sex drive is gone

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Okay, so my city is still in pretty strict quarantine. With that, my girlfriend and I don't get to see each other. To specify the relationship dynamic, we are a lesbian couple. There have been a couple times where we've talked dirty on the phone and she gets super into it, and I don't know why, but I'm not. She's always pretty horny, and I was before all of this, but my sex drive is just non-existant. I'm never in the mood, and everytime we've done it I've always just been excited to get her to finish and watch a movie or just talk. She never forces me to do anything, but I'm never in the mood. What's wrong with me?

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago

    The current mess is screwing with everyone's head in many ways. It's likely that we won't be able to identify all of the psychological effects until long after normality resumes and we can look back with the objectivity that comes with the passage of time.

    I don't think there's anything wrong with either you or your girlfriend. The two of you are different people and you're responding to all this in different ways. Although video chatting allows you to maintain your connection, everyone who's been in a long-distance relationship knows that they're a challenge to maintain, and there's no substitute for spending time with another person IRL and having physical contact.

    If you care enough about her to help her get off even if you're not much interested in getting off yourself, and she cares enough about you to spend time doing the non-sexual stuff that helps you cope, then I think that's pretty positive.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Thank you for your reassurance and giving an in-depth answer. This helped me think in a new light

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  • TheMightyOz
    3 years ago

    I tried to stroke my cock. It was a wet noodle. I am just pathetic.

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  • dirtybirdy
    3 years ago

    Do you take meds of any kind?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      I don't

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    My ex had a low sex drive and it was terrible for me. At least you’re getting her off. That’s very thoughtful of you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Usually everything in the bedroom is fine and I'm for it and so is she, but the distance is killing me.

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  • freelarking
    3 years ago

    Type and frequency of porn?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Won't specify the first part, but maybe a couple times in a week. A lot lower than normal.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Maybe you're just really stressed out?

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  • noneoftheabove
    3 years ago

    I think they call it lesbian bed death

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Yeah, but we haven't really been together for that long for that to happen lol.

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      • noneoftheabove
        3 years ago

        Sometimes in a relationship it all just gets very same same. The thing is that if you wait for the moment to feel horny it may not happen. It’s like waiting to feel motivated before going to workout ie you will never workout. You have to just go to the gym and the motivation will follow. Think of it like a being on a rowing boat. Just put the oars in the water and start paddling and it will happen. Trust me I’ve been there. My partner and I did role play for a long time which I loved. It was like a different person and scenario every time. It really helped a lot. Also try having a date night no matter how long you’ve been together. Get dressed up and go do something special together. If you try all this and you still don’t feel like it maybe it’s just that you’re not that into her?

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  • EnglishLad
    3 years ago

    The more sex you get, the more you want. The less sex you get, the less you want.

    Quarantine has pretty much pissed on everyone's parade and made everyone either have a huge sex drive or a non-existent one. No-one's got a stable sexual appetite anymore.

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    • litelander8
      3 years ago

      I disagree.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Yeah... I don't know if I agree with that first statement. But I can definitely agree with the second one. It's a very weird time for all of us.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    Doesnt seem normal to me

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  • leggs91200
    3 years ago

    quarantine can drain a person's will to live, let alone have a sex drive.

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